I am a 27 year old female that is in a serious relationship. I have dated this guy for 3 years. I am an attractive girl and I have been told that I am pretty good in bed. I have one small problem. I want to have sex all the time. I dont care what kind of sex. Even if it is just giving him oral sex, I crave it. He tells me that something is wrong with me or either he feels like he cant please me. That is not the case. I just love having sex and making him have an amazing climax. This is a very serious question and I need someone to tell me what I can do to "tone it down".
2007-12-26 07:20:29 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
I know how you feel. I want sex for breakfast lunch and dinner and I'm 37 now. My poor husband says I'm killing him, lol. I have been like this since I was 19 and my drive is getting worse as I get older. He loves the way I look thank goodness ( I'm 6 feet tall and very attractive as well) and I believe that's because of our daily exercise routine it keeps us healthy and very flexible. There's nothing wrong with you at all, you just have needs, make sure you mate takes care of them after all women are sexual beings too. I honestly cannot tell you how to tone it down, I just think you need somebody that can match it.
2007-12-28 10:15:42 · answer #1 · answered by N1C2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women often enter stages of increased sexual appetite at different ages. Men most often when they begin their sexual journeys at 18-24. Women then pick-up around 25-35. It has to do with the way each person's mind and hormone levels are built up, experiences in life, and feelings that develop for specific people. So long as you are healthy and otherwise live well, it's nothing to be concerned about.
If you have reason to believe you are depressed or have a sexual addiction (for instance if you start eyeing other men because you're not satisifed at home), then you might consider seeing a psychologist or counselor.
You might also be seeking approval from your boyfriend. Seeing as he has been concerned about his inability to satisfy you, you may be seeking more sex just to show him it's not just him. I don't know for sure, only you do.
As for getting rid of the urge, you might try jogging or running. I don't mean jog or run after you're already sexually aroused, just start a routine every day after work or something. Get rid of some of that pent-up energy before you get home and see your boyfriend.
Also, try organizing dates or outings on specific days (not specific days of the week, just some day(s) each week) where you go out and watch a movie, eat dinner, etc. knowing that when you get home you will have sex. And then exercise restraint and keep your legs closed the rest of the week. If that doesn't work, don't get mad at him. The last thing you want to do is make him feel inadequate, as that will kill a guy's libido about as fast as kicking him in the nuts.
I hope this helps. I guess now you know what it felt like for all the sex-crazed guys you dated back when you were a teen and early 20-yr old...because I guarantee you this helpless sexual appetite is exactly what they felt then.
2007-12-26 07:33:44 · answer #2 · answered by ninjaphobos 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hi there Luvinhar,
Just to make sure that you don't have any emotional/psychological issues go see a counsellor/liscenced therapist and have a chat. If not I agree with the others who say you have a high sex drive and need to find ways to distract yourself sometimes. Anything to excess can be addictive which presents its own problems.
One the other hand it is likely that with time your drive will lessen so don't worry about it unless you find you can't stop yourself or there are undelying emotional issues which must be addressed, or should be.
Best of luck and God bless
Barry H
2007-12-26 10:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i do not think any thing is wrong with a woman having a high sex drive. But if it is something you are concerned with.
Go see your Doctor and find out for sure. I had a girlfriend ask me about 4years ago, if i thought her husband was gay because his sex drive was very low. That one i couldn't answer, because that was strange to me. But yours i think is simple, you have a high sex drive. Do some research, go on line, talk to Doctors, or a person who specializes in this area. Good luck, but don't worry about it either.
2007-12-26 07:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by Sha T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to tone it down? I understand completely. I like to have sex even if it's just to give my husband pleasure. i like the feeling and closeness and even if i dont get off, it feels great. There's nothing wrong with it, and shame on your man for making you feel like there is! he needs to relax, not you!
2007-12-26 07:24:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on over here! I won't tell you somethings wrong with you, in fact.. I would enjoy the challenge of trying to wear YOU out!
Theres nothing wrong with having a high sex drive as long as you are safe about it, tell your boy friend I said, "step up to the plate and satisfy his woman"!
2007-12-26 09:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by bender_xr217 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need some attention your man isn't giving you. Or is that just stating the obvious? You'd be happier with more sex, he's happier with less. OK, is this gonna ruin the relationship?
The next question is do you masterbait? Have you found ways to pleasure yourself? You do not need a man to enjoy sex.
I guess I'm unsure if u want more of his attention, or just more friction in your panties..
2007-12-26 07:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by Shelli_k18 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why tone it down?? I'm 40 and my wife's 36 and we haven't stopped since we met 11 years ago. If we don't do it 3-4 times a day, it's just not a good day. There's nothing wrong with it, hun.
2007-12-26 08:18:24 · answer #8 · answered by Rocket 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would find ways to pleasure yourself to give him a rest. I DON'T think you are an addict. You only want sex with him, not anybody you can get it from. That would be a problem. You don't sound like you have one. He is very VERY lucky. Enjoy yourself - literally.
2007-12-27 07:14:26 · answer #9 · answered by ADC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to think about it all the time...dont look for the obvious things like going down town all the time...you and your man can do what ever you want instead of always having sex...dont get me wrong its a wonderful thing to do!!:) but just dont always think about it and substitute something else for it like a movie.
2007-12-26 07:26:00 · answer #10 · answered by Babyaries 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋