My husband and I have been married for 6 years, we have a 3 year old daughter that he never pays any attention to. When he is home with us he just sits around watching TV, sleeping, or talking about being bored. He has went to the doctor and was told he is suffering from depression, he has medication but he will not take it. He can go for days without speaking to me and when he does talk most of the time he is complaining about something. I have put up with it as long as I can. Is there anything else I can do or should I just take our daughter and leave him.
2007-12-26 06:57:30 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
...it seems you have made a decision already, and just need
verbal encouragement. If, you have family near by tell them of
your thoughts and seek support of your decision, then, DO IT!
2007-12-30 06:43:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should formally leave him. I just think you need to give him a jolt. Sit him down (multiple times within a week) and tell him that if he doesn't start following doctors orders you and your daughter are going to have to go to your mom's (or other family members) until he gets himself together. Depression is a disease so you really shouldn't leave him because of it but I can understand needing to get yourself and daughter out. You should visit often, call a lot. Be there for him in every way but also show him that if he doesn't get things together he can't have you. See a marriage counselor too. Good luck. I hope you can be strong and let your love for one another carry you through this.
2007-12-26 07:02:44 · answer #2 · answered by sm0kinac3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WIth you leaving him, his depression is just going to go higher. He need to find a way to get out of depression. Period. Now for you, you need to know if you still love him and want a future with him. If so, find away to help. If he hates his job, tell him to find a better one. If he just quit everything, then give him a good 2 week doing nothing. That should help a bit. But of course, you will have to work a bit to cover cost.
But if you want a break and you leave him for a while. Is okay to, you need to relax a bit. Just remember when you go back to him, he will be even more upset.
So maybe during the holiday, just ask him to take a extra day off and relax.
2007-12-26 07:05:09 · answer #3 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him. If all he does is sit around doing nothing but watching tv or sleeping. Or doesnt even pay any attention to your daughter than leave him. He isnt worth it and I know its going to be hurtful leaving him and taking his daughter but from the sounds of it if he really cared about you two he would show it instead of being lazy and neglectful to his family.
2007-12-26 07:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by babygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he refuses to see a doctor on a normal basis or take medication he if refusing to help himself. You can't force him. And it's not healthy for you or the child to be put in this situation, the child is not going to understand what depression is she's just going to grow up thinking her dad dosnt' like or love her. You need to talk to him, before you make the decision to leave. Tell him it's effecting you and your child and you love him but you have to do what's right for the child. and a child should not be brought up in a home like that.
2007-12-26 07:03:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer already. If he refuses to take his medication for his medical condition, then you need to protect your daughter from his indifference and his hurtful behavior. If he agrees to take his medication like a big boy, then hold him accountable for his behavior. You are a parent here, and your obligation is to your daughter. Be the role model she needs. On medication, your relationship stands a chance. Good Luck.
2007-12-26 07:06:42 · answer #6 · answered by judy y 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In many attempts of counseling, I found this to be the most effective... Mark a date on the calendar with Red Sharpie! Tell your hubby that things have to have changed for the better by this date or you all are OUT! Make sure he has to look at that calendar everyday as a reminder! Then stick by your word...
2007-12-26 07:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to secretly put some money away before you leave so you will be able to start over , I was married to a depressed woman and your story sounds a lot like mine...Don't just run out the door try to plan a future it will be a lot easier for you...GOOD LUCK!....
2007-12-26 07:05:17 · answer #8 · answered by Confused 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he has been diagnosed and treated but refuses to take his medicine there is nothing else you can do. He knows what he needs to do and refuses to do it for you, your daughter of for himself. You have to decide if you can live the rest of your life like this and make your daughter grow up like this. I could not, I would take her a leave.
2007-12-26 07:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what you call emotional neglect, which can be just as painful and hurtful as abuse.
Give him an ultimatum: either he gets help ASAP and continues to do so, or he can pack up and move back to mommy's house. He doesn't care enough about either of you to get himself into the best possible mental place to love and care for you, so he is being neglectful and breaking his vows.
2007-12-26 07:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has a problem, he is depress and that's terrible. You're in a bad situation and you deserve better. You leaving will make him either straighten up or get worst. You should seek some marriage counseling. If you're not in church you should get in one and start praying.
2007-12-26 07:11:25 · answer #11 · answered by KSR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋