My parents are going through a divorce and its deffinatly taken a toll on me. Ive thought about dying but I would deffinatly never go through with it. My mom tried counsiling with me but I cant stand to talk about personal stuff with a stranger? I dont know what to do. I recently got my grades up to all A's except for Math because that teacher deffinatly hates me. I recently studied for the biggest test of the year for 3 hours a day a week before the test and got a 44 on it. And other people didnt study at all and got A pluses. I am figity alot and flinch at the weirdest times. Whats wrong with me?
2007-12-26 06:51:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hey girl. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you. I went through a VERY similar situation. My parents divorced when I was 6. It was very hard on my sister and I. My parents would use my sister and I to hurt the other. My dad would tell us how much he hated my mom, and my mom would tell us what a jerk my dad was. This went on for years and years. By the time I was 17, I hated BOTH my parents. I had been through 2 custody battles. My parents also sent me to a counselor. I would pour my heart out to the counselor, and he would promptly report, in detail, everything I said to my parents (after he PROMISED he would keep everything I said a secret). I would highly recommend NOT telling a counselor anything! I have seen many through out the years, and they are not trustworthy. If you do want to see one, don't talk about anything that you do not want repeated.
As for you, you are doing great. Just focus yourself on your grades. There is nothing wrong with trowing yourself into school. Make lots of friends, and keep yourself busy. I know it doesn't feel like it, but you will be ok.
Your parents both love you, I am sure. But, unfortunately, these days, 50% of marriages end in divorce. All you can do is make the best of it.
If you are having a hard time in math, see if you can find a tutor. If you cannot learn from your teacher, see of one of the other students will help, or, talk to your parents about hiring a math tutor for you. Sometimes just hearing a new teacher is enough to understand. My best advice to you, is to always talk to your parents. Tell them how you feel. Enjoy your time with them. Even though they don't love each other anymore, it doesn't mean they do not love you.
Keep your chin up, sweetie
If you try to be mature about it, you will be suprised ho mature you actually become. Don't throw fits, or cause problems in school on purpose. You sound like a very poised young lady, and I am sure you will get through this.
However, if you are thinking about hurting yourself, you should speak to a counselor about it. No matter what you think, or what you see in movies, there is nothing glamorous about hurting yourself. It will not bring your parents back together, and it will only cause problems, not solve them.
2007-12-26 07:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to feel stressed out when your family is having problems. You might not like talking about personal stuff with a stranger, but you can let the counselor know that some things are going to take some time to work out. It really is your best option.
2007-12-26 14:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong is that you are focusing on the negative in your life instead of the positive. If you sit back and really analyze your life I am sure you will find some positive aspects and you should focus on that instead.
We all have bad days, we all have bad parts of our life, but what we choose to focus on determines our happiness.
Some good things:
1. Your mother and father are healthy and able to care for you.
2. You have all A's except for math
I am sure you can think of more if you try, remove the negative thoughts with positive thoughts and don't allow yourself to get depressed, you have the power to do that.
2007-12-26 15:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like just stressfull times for you. Trust me....it will get easier. I went through the same stuff when I was younger.
It sounds stupid but, it will make you a stronger person when you look back at it, and realized that you got through it with your head still attached!!
2007-12-26 15:02:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel comfortable talking to people about my feelings either, but what helps me is writing in a journal. It is like talking to a person but you don't have all the critism that people give you.
It really helps a lot.
I love to write and stuff, and i even started expressing myself in poems....it really works and it could get you into a good profession when your older...
GOOD LUCK!
2007-12-26 15:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by Katie R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a trusted adult, counselor, or minister. And there is nothing wrong with you. Your just young. Be happy with who and what you are. Take some walks. Smell the flowers... really.
2007-12-26 14:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing's wrong with you...you are just going through a stressful time right now. Things will get better. Trust me. :-)
2007-12-26 14:55:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
number one: don't turn emo. You not impressing anybody
number two: don't kill yourself, much better alive then dead. It will pass
number 3: my parents are divorced but i still get to see both of them, your parents wanted what was best for them and its natural....
good luck
2007-12-26 16:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong with you, you just only thirteen years old when you get older like me you will love your life
2007-12-26 14:55:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋