I Luv a girl.She is 31 & me 24. I want marry with her. but her father doesn't agree about this. he saying to her that if she will marry to me he will sucide. the problem is i am from hindu(Saini) family and she is from Hindu(Solanki) family. that is why her father saying that "hamari naak neeechi ho jayegi puri cast main" but her younger brother is ready for this. and i know she loves me lot. And she cries all the time when we talk to each other reply pls.
Can I take help from any WOMEN ASSOCIATION.
plz any one help me.
2007-12-26 06:46:09 · 18 answers · asked by Kaavya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dude,
If you really love her go ahead and marry age and caste doesn't matter you are 24 and she is 31 you both has enough maturity to lead a happy life.
Blackmailing is the ultimate weapon for parents .If the girl is ready to come out and marry you go ahead dont stop for anyone's permission or approval or else you can take the help of Cop's or Social organisation for your security.
But before marrying make sure that even girl loves you more than her family and make sure that she will give you a peacefull and prosperous life,If she can then rest of all is trash.
Good luck dude.
2007-12-26 09:25:58 · answer #1 · answered by devdath_007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have gotten every answer as do it and dont. But if you truely know that she is the one and you really love her and its not just love but true forever lasting love, then do what your heart is telling you to do. Marriage doesnt mean that you dont love her or want to be with her for the rest of your life if you dont marry her. Try getting engaged, for a year or two. What's the hurry, stay together for ten years before you get married. Then do it, when your relationship is in need for a little more and that will start the new life together, by that point your parents have no choice but to wish you happiness with the one everyone can see you truely love. What's the hurry. If you think you have to marry her right now or you both will die not tying the knot, then you have no choice but to go behide their backs and do it, or the wiser choice of going up to your parents and tell them you are head over heals for her and you have to do it reguardless of the pundit, and they can either give you their best wishes or you have to do it without their consent. And by the way two years is only two years, that isn't any thing like 10 years difference, which many people marry with a larger difference than ten years and your is only a mesely two. Ask youself if it would make a world of difference if YOU were two years older than her? If you answer yes than your parents must not want you to marry her specifically and they are full of crap and do what you feel as right.
2016-05-26 09:10:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. What are you doing? In which profession are you in?
2. What profession is girl in?
3. After marriage if you both don't have the backing of the parents, can you survive?
4. Her younger brother is of what age?
5. All these q's are important & to know there answers are equally important. Then only we can help you to find solution.
6. The problem is not of the caste but there are many other factors which the elders are seeing, which you can't.
7. Marriage means responsibility of the family--are you mentally ready for that e.g.-- taking children to school, hospital,caring for wife's health, maintaining a good friend circle etc.
8. See in your family what is the contribution of the parents.
2007-12-26 14:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have readthe other answers and most of them are very good it seems to me father has some one in mind for her! Talk with her let her know that you are willing to go to the far ends of the earth for her. tell her father the same thing if he still will not get off the kill my self scare tactic ask her in front of him what she wants to do if she says she wants you! [ note !][tell her be fore you do this so she will be ready] send him a casket in the mail. with a note that you wish him well but it is time for new life to begin.
2007-12-26 07:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by 7.62x54 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like her Dad needs help, that's so lame. If the two of you truly love each other, then why does it matter what they think anymore...obvioulsy they are never going to give you their blessings, so screw em' and do it anyway. Maybe they'll come around in the end or something.
2007-12-26 06:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck. I understand how different cultures and religions can really cause conflict in families where they still arrange marriages for their children.
I don't know what to say. . .but give it a little time or you two will have to go off to another place and live your own life
2007-12-26 06:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by smurfee68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is the strongest force in the world if her parents love her and respect her they will learn to accept her choice in loving you.... Secondly I seriously doubt her father will kill himself he is just being dramatic ...Tell them you're marrying weather they like or not and if they won't come to the wedding then get married in Las Vegas....tradition sometimes makes us handicap and fearful because we're scared to be different and not live under another person's thoughts this is your life live it to the fullest you only get one chance
2007-12-26 06:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by meka33311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a 31 year old woman is still making decisions based on what her mommy and daddy say, then she is NOT mature enough to be married.
Find a real woman.
2007-12-26 06:51:37 · answer #8 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry her, and then wait for awhile before making amends. If you both love each other, then everyone else will need to accept this in time.
2007-12-26 06:52:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what u think is right. Go ahead ..never regret . If she is destined for u .. U will surely get her..no matter what happens . All the best
2007-12-26 08:23:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋