i've been living with him for 2 years together for 3 have a baby together perfect relationship he's a great guy he's been married twice before. he says he's not ready to get married right now but he does want to eventually and that he loves me a lot and never wants to break up. i just don't understand why he wouldn't want to get married he's done it twice before and they were horrible to him and i treat him great.
2007-12-26 06:11:20 · 26 answers · asked by luvkisses 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is simple. He has all he wants, without the legal responsibilites. Do you have what you want?
2007-12-26 06:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
the answer is in ur question. the guy has been divorced twice & he may be gun shy about getting married again. he has a great situation w/ u right now & doesn't want to messit up. u have to decide if u want to live this way or not. as tough as it may seem if u want to get married & he doesn't u need to leave. give him some space though. he may want to marry u but don't rush him. let him decide but if time passes some more & if u want marriage & he doesn't by all means leave.
first of all the woman is nt an unpaid whore. what if the situation was reversed i bet u u wouldn't call the man an unpaid whore. u would side w/ the woman everytime. stop w/ the hypocrisy & double standard.
these 2 people are in a serious relationship.
2007-12-26 06:58:11 · answer #2 · answered by conan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey to be honest it is not that easy just because he has been married twice before although this probably is a major reason why he is not in a rush. I understand you treat him great and all but it is serious buisness getting married. I think you should be patient with him and try to understand where he is coming from. He is atleast reassuring you that he wants to marry you so respect that and not force it on him or you will only push him away...Good luck
2007-12-26 06:42:57 · answer #3 · answered by Flyyasever 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was divorced twice and I never want to get married again so my advice is don't pressure him because that will only push him away. He just doesn't want to get hurt or even hurt you because its easier to walk away from someone than get divorced. You know for most people marriage is just a piece of paper binding you to a contract are you sure that you are alos ready to have to deal with that? You may be the best girlfriend in the world , but once you get married everything changes and people change , just don't feel like you have to change yourself for him . Be your own person and in time this wil all pass and in your favor.
2007-12-30 04:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by jennifer006961 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please dont take this as a insult but I cant help but tell you that you are being treated like a unpaid whore, & this must stop! Why were the other two women ok to marry & not you? Also why is he living with you? & getting free sex & someone to wash his dirty clothes & cook & clean & do all the things a wife does for her husband but you dont get to reep the benifets? & for him to claim he,s not ready is a cop-out! Come on,wake up! You have a child together, & he wont give you the respect of taking you and making a honest women out of you is a bunch of crap! If he wont marry you now, he will never marry you, this is a fact & if you dont believe me then just ask the million of other women who have heard that line before. At the end of the day, your gonna stay with him, but you must understand that he wont commit, you will merely be his girlfriend, no ring, no wedding, no foreverness, just a girl with whom he can have sex with whenever he gets horney, honey, you gotta tell him, you want a ring & a date, or its over.
2007-12-26 06:27:14 · answer #5 · answered by penelope 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Trust me...DO NOT PRESSURE HIM!!! I pressured my boyfriend and he gave me the ring and 5 days later broke up with me. It is never a good idea to make someone do something they aren't ready for!
Maybe the other 2 women he was with treated him great when they were dating, just like you do. Then when they got married he saw their true colors.
I understand that you want to get married, but if he's not ready then try to be patient with him. Then when he finally asks, you'll know it's because he truly WANTS to, not because he thinks he HAS to. Hope this helps :)
2007-12-26 06:37:29 · answer #6 · answered by UT_VOLS 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because he just isn't ready. So many things change after getting married, which is why the divorce rate is so high. Stop pushing the issue, it will happen when and if its going to happen. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you just because he won't sign some paper that says you are commited. Why ruin such a great thing?
2007-12-26 06:31:01 · answer #7 · answered by Video_Production 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is the reason for your rush? Do marriage equal commitment, or does being committed require marriage? You got involved with a guy who had been married twice and had a baby with him. He may never want to get married. If that is the case, what are you going to do!
2007-12-26 06:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by callawak2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You said it all in your first sentence "you have a perfect relationship" so why the F would you want to change it?!?!? Marriage destroys all relationships including soul mates. Take an honest look at all the married couples you know!!! He has finally learned that marriage is a nightmare and doesn't want to do it again. If you think your love is so special and can survive the marriage nightmare you are WRONG!!!
2007-12-26 07:11:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he won't tell why he won’t marry you even when he says he loves you, then you won't ever really know why and we don't know that answer either. The important thing is that he doesn't propose and that this is important to you. I guess you have to decide how important marriage is to you, and how long you're willing to wait. Seems as though he has been there, and isn't in any hurry to go back down that road.
2007-12-26 06:16:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me put it this way. A guy buys a car that turns out to be a real lemon. He gets rid of it, and buys another car that turns out to be another lemon. So, he gets rid of that car too. Then, an auto dealer lets him test drive another car- for as long as he wants. He just puts gas in it, and pays insurance. This car is GREAT. No trouble at all. Starts every time, drives great, looks good. He loves driving this car. And, he doesn't even have to pay for it. So, he's gonna keep driving it forever. Why would he change ANYTHING???? Lady, this guy has just about all the benefits of marriage, with no obligations. He'd be crazy to change anything, as long as things are going great as they are, so how long are you going to let him "test drive"the relationship????
2007-12-26 06:38:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋