Me and wife have been married since July and found out she was pregnant about a month ago. She told me the other night that she wants me out of the house and she wants to get back with her ex but he does not want her. I asked if the baby was mineand she got mad saying that I should have not asked her that. Was I wrong in doing so?
2007-12-26 05:50:58 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Separate from her asap.That does not mean you pick up and go, it all depends who is paying for the house.If you pay the rent/mortgage she should go, even by force if you need to. If it is joint purchase or joint rent, you need to hire a lawyer and take it from there.Be careful as you don't want to ruin your credit ( I know is the last thing in your mind right now, but your actions now will matter a lot in a few months/years).
Even if she comes back crying and begging that she was going through a "phase" she is not to be trusted EVER again and the marriage is pretty much over.
If she claims that her ex does not want her back, I guess is her childish excuse to misguide you, even now.
Keep as much evidence as possible with your interactions with her, be it phone calls (record them) emails or letters.
From what it seems, the baby may not even be yours, but you will know for sure when you request the paternity test.
DO NOT sign the birth certificate unless you know for sure its your baby.
Hang in there, from the answers above, you moved quite few people with your story.Hard times ahead of you, but you'll make it
Good luck
2007-12-26 06:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by Vergina 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have been married for 5 months.
Your wife is trying to kick you out of the house. Are you paying for any part of your home? If so, tell her that if she wants to break up, she should leave.
Your wife wants to get back with her ex, but he doesn't want her back. Then how does she think she's going to get back with him? This doesn't make sense.
Something ain't right. Your wife says she's pregnant and she all the sudden wants you to move out of your home. I don't THINK so! Something sneaky is going on. If it's not her ex's baby, it's somebody's baby. You have every right to be suspicious. If I were you, I would pack her sh*t and put it out on the front porch/lawn/whatever. Then change the locks. If she wants to go back to her ex, let her go. One way or the other, if she doesn't want you, it isn't your problem. Or if she wants you to leave, the take ALL of your stuff and go; and make sure that you don't pay her one single cent for ANYTHING. Matter of fact, you haven't been married for a year so file for an annulment (based on abandonment or adultry something like that). Insist on a blood test once the baby is born and don't pay for any child support until you get the results.
One way or the other, your wife is a dishonest person and the sooner you get out of your marriage and protect yourself financially, the better.
2007-12-26 06:01:59 · answer #2 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you were not wrong in asking if the baby was yours. Honestly she needs to take a minute and look at how it looks to you. She is making bad mistakes and it always takes time for anyone to realize a mistake has been made. Give her time and she will see things more clearly when she is alone with a baby on the way! Simply wait......... You on the other hand should prepare for battle! If that baby is yours you will need to have everything in order when it is born and you will undoubtable want a parenting plan in place the day the baby is born and need to know who will have custody of the baby!
Good Luck,
Momma_Bear
2007-12-26 06:02:54 · answer #3 · answered by the_morris_bears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it would be wrong if your marriage was not in question. No one in a happy marriage questions whether their kids are actually theirs, which is why a surprising number of men raise children who are not their own. In your case, where your marriage is being threatened by her decisions, you have every right to ask, and law compels her to answer the question. There are ways to do DNA tests before the baby is born, and you can petition the courts for that. You can also wait until the baby is born and do a DNA test with or without your wife's permission (I know someone who had to do that.) Regardless, she will need to provide proof if you request it, and regardless whether she thinks it's rude, she brought on these questions with her questionable behavior.
2007-12-26 05:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by bertha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tough luck for ur wife. she said she was going to leave u & go w/ her ex. she also said she's pregnant. the baby may not be urs. u have every right to ask. don't let that crazy wh*re let manipulate u. don't let her make u support a child that is nt urs for 18yrs wait til the baby is born & get a dna test. don't sign the brith certificate either. if the baby isn't urs bam ur home free. then get the divorce. get a real woman that will treat u w/ respect & honor. screw ur wife she is trash
2007-12-26 09:29:20 · answer #5 · answered by conan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Defensive and agressive. That's her position right now in order to have you where she needs you, otherwise you don't take the spot she has already taken, and also, now the fault it's on you, that way it doesn't go towards her.
If you asked if you did wrong, my response is yes, but it's yes if you are reffering to marring someone like that, that's where you did wrong.
Get a backbone and get out from that situation, leave your place next to her for a weak guy from out there who will be glad to take your place and being blamed just like you are.
2007-12-26 06:28:23 · answer #6 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with asking.
Let her know that her bringing up her ex makes you weary and therefore only want confirmation.
Not to be a pessimistic, but better safe than sorry.
Good luck =]
2007-12-26 05:54:49 · answer #7 · answered by 1 Love 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were not wrong to ask that questions I would ask that myself. I would make sure when the baby is born to have a paternity test done. I wish you the best of luck hang in there.
2007-12-26 06:01:42 · answer #8 · answered by ijinxu@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you were not. She needs to understand that when she makes certain choices, like kicking you out of the house and telling you she wants to get back with the ex, that it comes with certain repercussions. LIKE, hey....wait a minute....is that kid even mine?? Don't let her use reverse psychology on you....she has a guilty conscience and just wants to take the focus off of HER wrongdoing...
2007-12-26 05:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by Shadow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is trying to get back with her ex then she might have been having sex (no sleeping going on there) with him. If that is the case she may be having his baby. Don't ask, just get a paternity test later.
2007-12-26 05:54:40 · answer #10 · answered by callawak2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋