a guy I know has told his wife that he wishes she would cheat on him so he could get a divorce. ignores her, never takes her out, makes her sit at home alone while he goes out and has fun. hes a total loser. during the worst time of MY married life i would never have said anything like that to my wife out of sheer respect. opinions?
2007-12-26 04:23:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wrfine:
im asking a question nothing more nothing less
2007-12-26 04:32:33 · update #1
I consider him a coward. He should "man up." If he wants a divorce, then he should just ask for it flat out. And stop playing stupid games with her and secretly wishing she'd cheat on him so she can be made out to be the bad guy. That's the one thing about divorce...usually one of you walks out as the bad guy most of the time. He needs to not be so afraid of that.
2007-12-26 04:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by nonameblonde 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry, but she sets there and takes it. Only she can change the situation. I would be asking what is wrong with her, that she would just set there and take it. He would be lucky if he didn't have the shape of an iron skillet up beside his head, as I walk out the door!! Tell her to tell him she has a surprise for him, that he needs to be there. Then find a nice hot young man, and have him show up. Then do him right in front of the jack@***. Then when done, hand him the divorce papers. Nah, just tell her she isn't a victim unless she makes herself one.
2007-12-26 12:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by Iam!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be abuse if she is a victim, for what you said, she is not leaving, hence she is not a victim, because if she is not leaving she is taking what she is being given, in other words she is approving and has no problem on being in that situation. It's actually using it on her favor, to probably have someone listen to her, and have a reason to do what she does, most likely to go out with you or other guys, but is not leaving, so is not abuse.
About the husband there wishing for her to have an afair, don't worry, his wishes will come true and she is working on it.
Ps. LOL.
2007-12-26 12:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Yes, this is emotional abuse.
What he said to her can really destoy her self-esteem .. and basicly tear her down.
If her choice .. which I know has to hurt a lot .. but she can do him the same way he is doing her ... or stay there and take it ... or leave him.
He would not have to tell me but one time .. that he wished I would cheat so he could get his divorce. I would not cheat ... but he would getting divorce papers soon .. his wish granted.
Yes ... it is abuse.
2007-12-26 12:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by Tara 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Abuse is way different from what your friend is doing. What he is doing is cowardly, he wants out of his marriage but wont leave. Gotta ask why? If she has an affair it gives him the upper hand in the whole situation makes him look squeaky clean while she is the adultress, this is why he is neglecting her needs so that she finds herslf turning to someone else, I do hope that she doesnt fall for this childish trick. Why play games, tell her how he feels and leave.
2007-12-26 12:38:15 · answer #5 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I don't consider that abuse but he isn't treating his wife very good. Sounds like maybe she has low self esteem because she is putting up with it. The best thing you could do is be there for her, hopefully she will get fed up and leave him and when she does she is going to need lots of support.
2007-12-26 12:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by barb 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It sounds to me like he is trying to provoke her into leaving him first, so that he doesn't come off looking like the bad guy.
Cowardly, yes....abusive...probably not.
This guy sounds like a class A prick to me...as for him wishing for his wife to cheat on him....someone should tell him to be careful what he wishes for, because he may just get it.
2007-12-26 12:50:22 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. GTO 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is a bad thing, maybe she should leave because soon it would be worst. Or he is cheating on her and doesn't want to look like the bad guy.
2007-12-26 12:29:15 · answer #8 · answered by slc 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This is not abuse, just not good marriage behavour. The husband needs to take ownership of his life and move on if thats what he wants.
2007-12-26 12:36:26 · answer #9 · answered by Slick 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would consider this mental abuse!
2007-12-26 16:09:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋