Did you intentionally "stick" it to him or did life just do it for you?
2007-12-26 04:09:29 · 44 answers · asked by Sondra 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't focus on revenge. Revenge is the Lord's. What you do is get out of that relationship. Do things to make yourself happy being happy should be your ultimate goal. If your a good woman (which you probally are) it will be his loss. Losing a good woman is more than enough. Don't reward anyone who doesn't respect you with your presence. KARMA is a mother* and it will come back. Enjoy your life and be happy. There is more to life than trying to get revenge on anyone.
2007-12-26 04:14:03 · answer #1 · answered by Tmeda 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Revenge on a cheater or an abuser is not really possible. Cheaters do not respect their partners and abusers do not believe that they have done anything wrong in the first place.
Forget revenge. Move on and make sure you understand why you found such a person. That way you can find a better person in the future.
In order to avoid cheaters and abusers you have to find someone who respects you. A good relationship is based upon two best friends who trust, respect and love each other.
Take care,
Troy
2007-12-26 04:20:17 · answer #2 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wish I was as nice as some of the others but I wasnt. He abused me, cheated, got another girl pregnant. I 'cleaned' out the house. Took everything but the bed he cheated on me in, the washer, dryer and refrigerator. I put sardines inside the mattress, Fix-a-Flat in the washer, dryer and refrigerator hoses, clorox on the hardwood floors, sardines down the heating vents and turned the heat on high before I walked out the door. I also put Epicac syrup in his tea, just a little. Took all of his food and BEER, that made him upset the most since he was an alcoholic. He called the cops on me but since I was 250 miles away they didnt believe I did it. Of course they said even if I did take everything in the house, he couldnt do a thing because 1. we were still legally married, therefore I was entitled to the belongings and 2. My name was on the rental agreement NOT his. He fought the divorce for 8 months but I finally won. After the divorce was final he asked me to take him back...I did...just long enough to clean out his bank account. NOW he is married to an ugly woman that he met in a bar. Yep, he met her on a Saturday, married her on a Monday. From what I hear, SHE IS abusive to HIM!
But to me, my best revenge was becoming a Christian, losing weight, finding a GREAT man, starting my own company and sending my ex a thank you letter. Yes, I thanked him for making me see what type of person I could be without him in my life. Would you believe he still asked me to take him back?? Even offered to divorce his new wife, which is #4 by the way!
My advice is, if you want revenge, you are NOT really over this person. I realized I just wanted to hurt him because he hurt me and that I was still trying to hold onto him. I finally 'let go of him'. Now My life is soooo much better and I am a LOT happier!
2007-12-26 04:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by Amarie 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I've not had a cheating or abusive husband but I have heard this story about a woman that did. When her husband left and divorced her, he got the house. So when she was moving out she took some small fish, like sardines or something and sewed them into the hems of the drapes. Now that really caused a stink! LOL!
2007-12-26 04:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, the best revenge is no revenge at all. They keep expecting it to be coming and are always looking over their shoulders waiting for it to happen. It can make them very paranoid, which, in itself can be a pretty good revenge. Besides all that, they are building very bad Karma, all on their own.
2007-12-26 04:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by kj 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had a cheating abusive ex bf and I tell you i wanted to do something really bad to him but then I thought that maybe that's not a good idea really so what I did was I just didn't pay no mind to him and went about my business cuz I know that Karma is ganna come right back to get him like the saying " Karma is a *****" and trust me my ex bf is ganna get it soon....
2007-12-26 04:13:37 · answer #6 · answered by gone 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I try not to be vengeful because i'm a huge believer in karma, BUT... my abusive ex-husband and I were divorced and he refused to move his broke down truck from my yard. I knew the DMV was in his grandfather's name. I gave him two notices to move it, then hired a scrap metal salvage person and had him cut it into thousands of little pieces and dispose of all the evidence. It just dissapeared overnight and there's no sign of it now. It probably was made into something new by now. I just got sick of his control and the games and had to move on with my life. I'm proud of myself for it.
2007-12-26 04:14:56 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetness 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I hate to say this but if your ex told you that you're too jealous and clingy then he must know what he's saying.
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Anyone that goes out clubbing just to see what their ex is doing or drive by his place at 7:00 a.m. to see who's there tell me that you need to work on something. I don't think that you are only jealous but also possessive. And if you don't change that then you will never get your ex back. Please don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to mean to you. I only want you to see what you are doing is so wrong. You have to admit that you are jealous and clingy. If you can't admit that then you'll never be able to fix the problem.
I understand that you don't like it if he dances and flirts in front of you. But guys are guys. And many guys don't see anything wrong with this. I know you feel hurt if he does that in front of your face. And it is disrespectful. But there are ways you can talk to your boyfriend if he's flirting while he's with you. You only have to tell him that it hurts you and that it's disrespectful and then ask him to stop doing it when he’s with you.
I don't know if getting back with your ex is going to last because now you have two problems. You were having problems with him because of his flirting and now you will have another problem because of this girl that he's going out with. It is eating you alive that he's involved with this girl and you know he's probably sleeping with her. How are you going to handle that if you get back together? Because of your jealousy and your insecurities are you going to be able to forget that he was ever involved with this girl? You really need to work on this and make sure if you try to get him back that you never again mention about his flirting or this girl. You can mention one more time how his flirting affects you but it has to stop there.
You asked how do you compete with the girl he's involved with. I looked at the picture and I can tell that your ex knows how to go for beautiful girls. So that give me a clear picture about how you look. I have a feeling that you are also very beautiful but for some reason I don't think you see yourself that way. The only thing I can tell you is that your boyfriend did not leave you because he didn't love you. He left you because of your jealousy and because you were clinging to him. If you love his as much as you say you do then fight for him and get him back. And if you do get him back then make sure that you can promise him that you will no longer be jealous, clingy or insecure about your relationship with him. If you can't promise him that then you may as well forget about him because it won't work if you don't change,
2016-07-19 17:30:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just live a better life. Once he sees that you are happy and content even without him, then he will see what he lost. When that day comes, you won't even care anymore whether or not you got your revenge.
2007-12-26 04:19:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I spent many years trying to plan the best revenge. I finally realized that it was consuming too much of me, and gave up and just hope kharma will happen in it's own time
2007-12-26 04:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by flowerchildofthecorn 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋