I want to see what married people might think about my situation, I'm asking this again cause I'm thinking of changing my phone number ...
ok so i want to see what people on here think about my ex.. I caught her with a married guy about 3 years ago and haven't spoken to her in about 2 years... So the dude got her pregnant and walked out on her out of fear that his wife will find out...
so now she's calling me for money cause he's having a tough time with the baby and lost her job for coming in f*cked up all the time from partying the night before.. I say F*ck her but one of my friends says i have to think about the child involved, especially since the baby's father's 'profession' pretty much indicates the support amount the court sets will be next to nothing
btw.. on christmas eve i saw her on caller ID again!! I didn't pick up cause one of my friends is trying to convince me to help her... and since it was christmas I was considering it
2007-12-26 03:51:31 · 28 answers · asked by Undead 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How is this YOUR problem! and how dare her call YOU!
Tell HER to call his wife and ask her!
P.s. Change your number!!!
2007-12-26 03:55:28 · answer #1 · answered by blah 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No sir, you do NOT need to think about the child involved, because it is not YOUR child.
Remember, you had not even heard from her in 2 years. And suddenly, because she went and did something dumb, she wants you to feel sorry for her, so she calls you out of the blue and asks you for moolah!
This is the same girl who cheated on you with a married guy. You do not owe her anything, judging from the facts you described ( assuming that you gave us all the facts ).
You seem to have a good heart, but have some self respect and don't allow her to use you. She probably laughs at you behind your back after each time you give her money.
Don't allow yourself to be a victim.
2007-12-28 06:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by johnsmith2025 ( Cavs Fan ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in helping other people ... but! ... are you aware if you start doing this, that she will expect more & more & more ... and! .. if you have to stop helping - then she will get mad at you ?
Also -- when you help - consider this - don't you think you will be enabling her to be messed up more with partying ? "SHE" is THE ONE .. who should be the responsible one for her child .. and herself.
She is just using this child as an excuse to get money from you. Are you aware of all the wonderful programs there are to assist her with her child care? I mean .. those programs help more than a lot of ordinary people might get ... like insurance .. medical help .. milk .. groceries, etc.
WHY .. do you think you are responsible? You had no part in this. In fact --she is just using you . You ask why? ... she thinks she can use you - and that you will give in to her.
If you start it .. then the baby's father will automatically be relieved of his duties to this child - because you have taken it on.
She & this supposed father are the ones who have got this situation all messed up ... not you.
She probably also needs money for more partying .. and so she can get MORE messed up. Don't be the enabler of this.
Let her find her way. When she appeals to you ... she is going to make it sound the worst ... and she will push every one of your buttons.
Change your number.
There are 2 people who can help her .. which is herself & the dude who got her pregnant ... plus, there is lots of other help for her out-there .. but she has to seek it it out .. and put the partying & getting messed-up aside to take the time to do it.
Don't let her play you.
Tell your friend to help him themselves - if they think she needs the help. Wonder how fast that will happen?
2007-12-26 04:32:39 · answer #3 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that f*cking sl*t cheated on u w/ some married guy then when no one wants to help her, wants to screw her so she can get money, & she has another man's baby she wants to comeback to u so u can support her again. don't u dare give her money again. i don't care if she has a baby or nt. she cheated on u first of all w/ a married guy. she got pregnant by the guy that u caught cheating w/. then the guy used her *ss to the max & when he found out that she was pregnant he changed zip codes. she lost her job because she was coming in stoned al the time. now she's desperate & coming back to her favorite sucker for money. she's irresponsible, doesn't care about u at all, she's a user & doesn't understand the definition of true love. she played the game but when the game played her she's not very happy about that. u have no responsibilty to her because of the things i said above. its her problem now. u are no longer her bf. if u gave her money then u will be giving her a place to stay & then u will sleep w/ her again & then u will have gotten her pregnant. then she's got u for 18 to 21 yrs kid. don't all for the trap. as for the child the child is nt ur problem. if i were u i would have no compassion at all. u are nt that kid's father. she should be tracking him down to help her. nt u. change ur number quick. don't talk to her ever again she sounds like bad news dude
2016-04-11 01:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your number. And never, I mean never talk to her again. The child is her responsibilty, she needs to be the one to worry about it. She made this mess, let her figure out how to fix it. The problem here is she knows you are a supportive type person and that if she tries hard enough she can get into your wallet by taking advantage of your giving spirit. She is a user and she has her sights on you. Let her learn to stand on her own before you ever give her the time of day. If she gets to your heart she will have you. You have been warned.
Yoda out
2007-12-26 03:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by Yoda 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come on! You are not obligated to help her. This is not your child. Let her legally go to the father for money. I wouldn't give her a dime. Let her learn her lesson of "you got pregnant by a married man" now you deal with the consequences. You sound look far too level headed of a person to deal with that piece of crap! Move on, don't feel obligated, and change the phone number again! Good luck to you and good for you for not playing the door mat!
2007-12-26 03:56:57 · answer #6 · answered by nonameblonde 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is NOT your problem!! Let me get this straight - your ex cheated with a guy and got herself pregnant, then she has issues with the father of the baby so she comes to YOU for money?! That's crazy! It's not your baby, it's not your responsibility and it's not your problem!!! She is only calling you as you appear to be a soft touch and for her to not be in touch for two years and then call up for money... come on, please have enough sense to tell her to f*ck off!
If your friend wants to think about her baby - then let him give her money!! Otherwise, let her go to her own family and friends and the father for money!!
Do yourself a favour - leave it alone, don't return her calls - if necessary change your number if she wont stop. You owe her NOTHING so please don't encourage her by giving in!!!
2007-12-26 04:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isnt your place to help, especially because you do not have any feelings for her. If you want to help her research some organizations that help single women and children and anonymously send them to her. I am sure she has other friends that will help her out. Ignore her if she is just asking for money. If she needed help with her baby she would just have to watch her child when she goes to work or something. Money will just run out and she will come running back. Her family and real friends should be helping her out. Or if you can afford to offer her a loan with a promisory note signed saying she will pay you back in full with interest if after a certain date. You are nice to try to help but you should stay out of it.
2007-12-26 04:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by Powertool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason you should feel obligated to help her. Your friends sound more like HER friends. Next time she calls you for money tell her to call a lawyer and file for child support from the baby's father then hang up.
2007-12-26 19:06:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't your child and isn't your responsibility and if you get involved with this sick woman, you will never be rid of her. change your phone number to an unpublished phone number. Tell your mutual friends not to give her your number. If she still gets in touch with you, tell her to get a lawyer and sue the baby's daddy for child support.
BTW, tell the friend if he's so worried about the baby, then he can send her money.
If it does ease your mind, then contact charity aid organizations and submit her info to them. Make a donation there and they can help her.
2007-12-26 04:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no obligation to her or the child unless you truly care. Honestly she does have other options and if she truly is wanting to do what is right you can offer to help but are not obligated to. Honestly if it was me I would help but I'm a glutton for punishment...in the emotional sense..... It comes down to if you care about her and the baby if not then change your number and move one.
Momma_Bear
2007-12-26 03:57:14 · answer #11 · answered by the_morris_bears 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋