I saw that my ex-husband has advertised again on a matrimonial website. He is logging in each day to respond to any interest that he receives.
We have been divorced for a few years now, but I still feel sad about the thought of him moving on. How can I keep from feeling this way?
I don't know for sure if he will get remarried soon, but he does have time off in January so he may be trying to get resettled. If he has time off, he can meet people in different states, etc.
2007-12-26 03:20:12 · 15 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
quit worrying about your ex moving on and spend your energy moving on yourself.....
2007-12-26 03:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you moved on? It's been a couple of years, and by the way it sounds, he initiated the divorce. All you have to do is realize that he was already moving on when he decided to divorce. So, when a man would let me know that he was no longer interested in me, I would let him go. It may be hard at first, but it's been a few years. You should be getting out and meeting people who might be interested in you. I have been divorced twice and I initiated both times. So I don't know what it's like on the other end. I have sympathy for those who maybe didn't see it coming, but they had to realize something was wrong in the marriage. My friend's father divorced her mother and she never moved on. He re-married and was a very happy person, while she pined and hoped that he'd come back one day. She died while still hoping he would return to her. He never did, and she could have had a happier life if she had only moved on. Good luck and God bless.
2007-12-26 20:33:51 · answer #2 · answered by char the brat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time for you to realize that he is moving forward with his life and that you are no longer a part of it. Checking out his site is kind of weird and you should stop doing that now because it is only making your feelings of depression worse. It is no longer your concern what he does and who he does it with. It might be better for both of you if he did relocate because it seems that you are refusing to let go. If you have children then of course you are going to have to allow them contact with him but you could set up visits and such through a grandparent or friend so that you do not have to see him until you get past these feelings and maybe find someone else for yourself. I suggest that you stop obsessing over what he is doing and start obsessing with getting a life of your own.
2007-12-30 08:35:01 · answer #3 · answered by cajun_queen_1970 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he left you, not vice versa. There is probably a bit of regret, from what it sounds like. Or jealousy. You should wish him well, especially if you still have feelings. Or cut him lose and stop monitoring his actions and move into the future. You will be miserable by his every step from now on if you keep tabs on him. I was jealous to hear about my ex-wife's boyfriends and then after 2 years, I had to upgrade from the old wife and things turned out MUCH better. Letting go mentally is the WHOLE battle. Win the battle and move on.
2007-12-26 11:28:11 · answer #4 · answered by tonepoet 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Feeling sad is a natural emotion. You once shared a life with him.
Lots of people are forced to get a divorce for whatever reasons - but they really never wanted to do it ... they were just forced to .. and it leaves them sad.
You probably still have emotions for your ex-husband .. and it bothers you to know he will have someone else. This is natural. You just probably never completely got over your feelings for him .. and you don't hate him .. so it is natural you would feel sad for the person who was once your world . and you shared your world with him.
2007-12-26 11:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by Tara 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is just the remnant of emotion left after your time together.
You don't want this guy back. He is your EX for a reason.
It sounds like he has hit a dry spell and is trying to tap into a bigger pool of candidates for his next Mrs.
2007-12-26 13:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop worrying about what the ex is doing and focus on your own life.
You've been web stalking him? going into the website to see what he's up to? why bother, your not married to him. If you keep letting him control your actions you'll never be free.
He can meet people right in your home town, why would he have to hide that from you? your not his wife anymore.
Go out and meet new people and get him out of your constant thoughts
2007-12-26 11:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by Hi its me again 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband's ex-wife is very miserable because he moved on. I say move on but don't cause any problems for them because you had your turn and it's done. It's not fair for the person coming in. It's my honest opinion.
2007-12-26 14:55:21 · answer #8 · answered by shakira j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I would think that if you divorced it was because you didn't have feelings enough for each other to stay together, so why do you care? Maybe it is because you have not moved on with your life, or maybe you still harbor strong feelings for him. You need to ask yourself why you care and go from there. If you still love him then tell him and maybe you can work things out, if not, then get over yourself.
Yoda out
2007-12-26 11:26:46 · answer #9 · answered by Yoda 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Quit obsessing over your ex husband.
2007-12-27 03:24:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your ex. Who cares what he is doing. Don't check up on him; it shouldn't matter what he is posting on the internet (as long as it is not about you). Post your own profile on a dating website... post lots of cute pictures and have fun yourself!
2007-12-26 11:34:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋