ok i had a baby boy 5 months ago he was fine and healthy and evrything was great!!!! i got back with my partner and everything was nice for ages until one night i go out with my bf my mom is babysitting and i got a little drunk as you do it was my first time to drink in ages anyway we ended up having unprotected sex i wasnt on the pill because i was waiting for my second period to come so i could get the coil fitted as my doctor had asked me not to have sex until i got it fitted but i didnt think about this when i was drunk !!!!!!! my peiods were so late but i thought it was just because i was worrying and they do take a while anyway so i took a home preg test just to rule it out but i am pregnant and i dont know how far or anything about 10 weeks i think im so embaressed to go to my doctor what have i done!!!!!! i would never have an abortion
2007-12-26 02:55:01 · 34 answers · asked by chic_who_take_noshit 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The answer to your question is: pretty foolish.
You need to calm down. You sound really high strung, freaked out, and getting all dramatic. Focus on taking care of the child you have and start getting ready for #2 and quit making bad choices. That's all you can do. Getting all worked up isn't going to help matters.
2007-12-26 03:01:22 · answer #1 · answered by Take A Test! 7 · 4⤊ 4⤋
Hey, I understand why you are worried - a newborn, a 2 year old and another one on the way - it will be a big responsibility for you - and you may be unsure how long the father will hang around. The thing is, you are their mum, and sometimes it might feel like a daunting responsibility, but you have to remember that lots of women suffer post natal depression - it's a very hard time just after a baby is born - so much changes in your life - you must be kind to yourself and know that if you do the right things, look after your little ones, then all will be well. You might not think so, but its that simple. Maybe you and the father are happy and will work something out - but don;'t worry about what might happen - you have something very precious and do actually have the power to do it all on your own if you have to - after all- you have made two babies already- that's pretty clever!
Seriously, get as much help and support from friends and family as possible - be fair and kind to them, and what you put out you will get back. And when you have number three, make sure you get some contraception sorted. Good luck, go to your doctor - there is nothing to be embarrased about - and it is better to take care of your baby -and remember, you can get through this - just stop being so hard on yourself and focus on all the great positives in your life. :)
2007-12-26 06:06:58 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Behavin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anwer to your question: Your decision was stupid, not you.
First of all, calm down! I believe everything happens for a reason. There is a reason you became pregnant again. I cannot tell you what that reason is though. Just go to the doctor and get the care you need for you and the baby. Always follow drs orders. You see that now though, don't you? You do not have to abort the baby. There are lots of people who are praying and hoping everyday to be able to adopt a little bundle of joy if you want to go that route. Consider your options, and do not decide until you have researched each option you have. One thing you could have done was gotten an emergency contraceptive from the pharmacy the morning after you had unprotected sex. But, we cannot dwell in the things that cannot be changed now. You have a few choices. If you are unable to care for the new baby as he deserves to be cared for, then consider adoption. If you think you will be able to give him the care he needs, then keep him and start getting things ready for another birth. It will be HARD for the first few years with them being so close in age, but as they get older, it will be easier than if you would have had them far apart. Mine are 2 years apart, and things are a lot easier now than they were when they were tiny. Remember to get all the rest you can, bc you will definitely need it. Just accept it and do what you need to do. Do not dwell in the mistake you made or it will make you miserable for no reason bc there is nothing you can do to change it now. God Bless you hun!
2007-12-26 03:13:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww man, don't be so hard on yourself. We all do things we regret. It may feel stupid right now and yes your doctor will give a lil bit of a lecture about it but actually being stupid? That's kinda harsh. Well, if abortion is not an option for you all I can suggest is either adoption or brace yourself of another addition. Talk to the father. See how he'd feel about another. That maight be helpful with your decision. And if all else fails just look at it this way. Now your kids will be able to grow up in the same age range. Playing together and keeping each other occupied. they grow so fast before you know it you'll be at that stage. It's do able. You won't have to deal with the guilt my sister feels sometimes. Her son is an only child and he's always complaining about being bored and wanting to go over his cousins houses. Yours will always have a friend. It's a blessing!!! Good luck.
2007-12-26 03:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No worries...I got pregnant about 6 weeks after I delivered my last and although the doctor wasn't that happy to see me back she was much happier to know that I didn't delay seeing her. It's very important that you and your new little one get proper prenatal checkups to ensure everything is going good. Since your body hasn't had much time to recover from your last one it's even more important.
It's going to be a really really tough pregnancy...since they are so close together. If you won't get an abortion then there are other options like adoption if you feel you can't handle it. I would talk to your doctor and really look at what you're able to handle before you decide anything.
Be realistic and mature about your decisions...and no matter what you choose, your children will thank you for it.
2007-12-26 03:10:16 · answer #5 · answered by Shiningami_Gurl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not alone a lot of women get pregnant a few months after they have a baby. Yeah they say wait like a year or so before trying again but things happen. Even being really really carefull you can still get pregnant. You have nothing to be embarrassed about. Go to your doctor, there are women that get pregnant with in a month of having their baby....
2007-12-26 03:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's a tough one. Thing like that happen a lot because women don't realize how fertile they are in the months following a delivery. I'm sure you aren't the only one that feel that way.
I would just suggest taking care of yourself and start prenatal vitamins again. The deed is done and now you have to get used to the idea of having two children. I'm sure it will all work out.
Good Luck! :)
2007-12-26 03:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by eli_whitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes to people to make a baby, so you can't put the blame on yourself, your boyfriend has a part in this also.
What do you mean a little drunk? I've been really drunk before but never to the point that I'd not even give a thought to some kind of birth control - condoms, or even pulling out (not full proof I know but last resort). Were you and your bf both drunk? If he wasn't that drunk why didn't he think about anything?
2007-12-26 03:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
dont blame yourself it takes two people to make a baby its both of your faults not one person,we all makes mistakes life in this world goes on and dont call yourself stupid as you are not,
your little one and new baby will be very close and how surprising when they get older you will soon find out, l got one little boy nearly five next year and lm expceting my second arrival on 7th august lm about 2 months pregnant.
remember you will make a great mother and your chap will be happy as fathers likes to be there for their kids,
we all like to get drunk but cant do it every time
2007-12-26 03:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by tina f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all get embarrased and if you can't deal with facing your doctor just find another one. And congratulations, it's always good for your son to have a sibling to play with. Respect to you for not considering abortion. You are doing the right thing.
2007-12-26 03:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by Grant N 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ur doctor is not going to say anything to you that you dont already know at least the kids will be close in age
2007-12-26 03:00:16 · answer #11 · answered by Dclp8204 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋