Do people between the age of 21 - 30 really don't know what they want or using it as an excuse?

Question

Regarding relationships being in one or not being in one. I know timing is everything but how much time does a person need to know what they want,who they want, and where they are going in life? How would you know what could be and what is destined for you and what can happen if don't take that leap of faith and just try? Are we afraid of failure or are we afraid of the thought of lossing apart of ourselves and our freedom to be with whoever, whenever, and not having to hear anyones mouth.

Answer 1

I would say people that age are afraid to commit because they're not sure if what they have at that age is what they're supposed to keep for the rest of their lives... because who they are is still changing at a fairly rapid rate. We continue to grow, mature, and change all our lives but the 20's are the time when you figure out who you will be as an adult emotionally.

We don't understand the inclination then when we have it, but the truth is we know in our subconscious that we likely won't be the same person in 10 years and aren't sure if the person we're with at that young age will satisfy our needs once we've matured. That's why more people are waiting to get married these days rather than run off and marry their high school sweetheart at age 21.

Answer 2

Life is a gamble ... you never know what you're gonna get, or how well you're going to perform.

From what I've read here on this site in the very short time I've been here, it looks to me that not many people take marriage seriously. They have more the attitude of "ok, let's try it, and if it doesn't work out, or I find a better deal, we just get divorced".

I think that they should make it far more difficult to :
1. get married
2. get a divorce

1. you go to college or university for how many years to get a career. And only if you graduate will you have a career.

I think the same should apply for couples who intend to get married.
a) Study each other for a couple of years.
b) Live together for a few years and see if you can be with the same person 24/7

After that, evaluate the relationship realistically.

Did you 'graduate' to make it a marriage?

If you flunked ... put it down to experience and move on. At least you learnt something from it :)

I really cannot see WHY people want to rush in and out of marriage that frequently.

Where is your self-respect and integrity?

Answer 3

I can tell you this,,I'm 38 now,,But when I was between the ages of 21 and 30 I made the most mistakes in relationships,,including a marriage and a divorced.
When I turned 30 I stayed single for 1 year and then met my now wife..been happily married for 8 yrs...I will never use my age as an excuse to do anything, but reality is that in my own life, the period of 21-30 was very dark and full of bad decisions.

Answer 4

I believe that this age span is when we find our real personality. We explore, try and experience. In terms of relationships, well, that is where you can clearly see the ups and downs. By time your needs and expectations change...... And you see that everyone is different from each other.

You certainly cannot know your destiny but you should try to give your best to your relationship. If that does not work, well, it shows there is something else in your fate.

Answer 5

I personally believe many people need to mess up a few relationships before they get one right, especially guys. The hormones get in our way, and we end up doing stuff we know is a bad idea, but can't help ourselves. So we have to mess up a few relationships before we realize those strategies don't work.

Answer 6

People's wants and needs change over time. That's a big part of it.

Answer 7

i don't know, who cares?