Living w/ Roommate, changing job location....would it be wrong to move?
So, I recently moved in with my friend of about 10 years (on and off), we've been living together for about 2 months now and I'm already realizing that I'm not really liking the situation as much as I thought I would. I love having her as a friend and hanging out but she just expects me to spend so much time with her....it pushes me away sort of. I mean, she gets upset when I spend the weekend at my boyfriends house, that's odd in my book....
Anyways, my current job is moving, very soon, and it is farther from my apartment....that on top of the complications of living together are pushing me towards the idea of moving....would that be wrong? Would subletting my apartment out be wrong?
I'm not making any decisions now, I just want to know if I'm completely crazy about even thinking aboug moving.
Is it rude to move/sublet your apartment after living with your roommate for only 2 months? Should I just suck it up and accept that this is part of being an adult?
Help please!
2007-12-26 02:32:06 · 4 answers · asked by Miss Cuddlefish 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Renting & Real Estate
We are both on the lease.
And we have talked about it (with lots of yelling nad crying) and for the most part she doesn't say anything but she still acts upset and makes offhand comments when I leave to/get home from my boyfriend's house.
2007-12-26 02:59:14 · update #1
It's definitely hard living with someone, even someone you're really good friends with. Sometimes that's the hardest! My opinion is that you should talk to her about it. Explain that you love having her as a friend, but that the roomate situation has been a little different than you expected. Tell her that you don't want to ruin your friendship by having hard feelings about living together. Throw in about your job moving farther away, so it looks like a good time to find somewhere else to live. The only thing is... Some people can't take "rejection" like this no matter how softly it's broken to them. If she's getting upset about you staying at your boyfriend's, she may be one of them. So which is most important to you? Also, who's name is the lease in, and you don't want to leave her in the lurch with a lease and no roomate. Or if it's in your name, it's hard to throw her out or "pick" who her new roommate will be. Sorry to say, you're just in a bad situation. Hope it works out for you.
2007-12-26 02:42:41 · answer #1 · answered by 1hotmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll need to talk with your landlord about the apartment.
But the fact is, some people simply shouldn't be roomies because they're incredibly clingy- and your friend is one of them.
If your job is one that you like and moving would be easier for you, go for it! If she's really your friend, she'll understand.
Good luck!
2007-12-26 02:43:15 · answer #2 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she sees you more than a roommate. This would be the perfect excuse to move. Go for it.
2007-12-26 02:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by Larry E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you room with someone doesnt mean you dont have your own life. If she cant accept that you have your own space too i would think it best to look for another place.
Talk to her first though if you think that will help. Maybe she doesnt realise what she is doing.
2007-12-26 02:43:23 · answer #4 · answered by Higgy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋