For everyone aged 30 up and still single: why do you choose to be one? do you have plans of settling down...?

Question

in the future? What is it about marriage that scares you?

Thanks.

Answer 1

Wow, Girl, you are making some rash assumptions here. Choose to be single? Scared of marriage? Maybe some people are like that, but there's plenty of other people who are single who do not choose to be, and who would like to be married if it were feasible.

I don't say "if it were possible," because almost anyone can find a marriage partner if they stoop low enough. Find someone who is sufficiently hard up for a place to live, or an illegal immigrant who wants a green card; that sort of thing.

Remember that "single" also includes divorced and widowed. I've been divorced four times, and then my last husband committed suicide when I was 58 years old, morbidly obese, and sufficiently accustomed to my life with him that I couldn't even imagine getting horny for anybody else. Post menopause, a lot of women (especially if they do not have partners) just decide it doesn't matter anymore. Why, I don't even "do it myself" anymore! LOL

But I don't like being altogether alone. I'd like to have friends who visit, men and women both. However, since my friends are scattered all over the globe, and I haven't made any close friends who are physically close (like within less than 20 miles), I am alone. But I'm settled down, all right: I hope I never have to move again.

Now if I could just get my friends in the Philippines and Arizona and India and Montana and Tennessee to visit me . . .

Answer 2

In general terms,look at the 18 -24 year old people of the late 1990's.What and who were they're role models and how have they emulated them..Zoom forward to their 30's and look at at the apathy and lack of drive they display when concerning a grown up position in society now.Hooking up is the normal behavior and non committal is cool.It's no wonder the population is the way it is,they see no hope,they learned no real self reliance because Mommy and Daddy were friends and not teachers for them.Everyone got a trophy for just lacing up a pair of soccer cleats.SOCCER.It's not an American sport.Play station has taken the place of the changing station males are not men and females are more manly than the males are these days.Something wrong with their collective personalities ? Yes it's called the feminazation of America.I could be wrong,I gotta check on my souffle'.

Answer 3

Being single isn't entirely a choice. But I've never been in a serious relationship before. The desire is there, of course. I would like to have a life partner at some point in my life. But right now I don't see myself getting married. No, marriage doesn't scare me. It's something I would definitely consider if I find the right person. Time will tell...

Answer 4

Marriage doesn't scare me, it just isn't the right choice for me. I like my own space too much. I love being single. I am 37 by the way and have felt this way since I was about 13 so I don't think I'll be changing my mind anytime soon.

I did try it once. Lasted less than a year. That was 14 yrs ago.

Answer 5

I'm almost 30... I have a live-in boyfriend.... We were talking about getting married but then he cheated on me.... Threw that idea right out the window.... Maybe one day I will marry him or maybe I will end up marrying someone else. I don't really think too much about marriage in my future... Everything happens for a reason.

Answer 6

I do not CHOOSE to be single. However, I am prevented by law from marrying my partner, with whom I have indeed settled down -- but in the eyes of the government, I am "single."

Interestingly -- and distressingly -- I have the same tax burden as heterosexuals, so this preclusion from having all the same rights effectively renders me a second-class citizen. Ain't America grand?

Answer 7

I did not choose this sh!t.
I was married and had kids at 24.
Now I think this is a result of marrying too soon.
Here I am 30, as good as divorced,
hoping for a second chance.
I would be scared to marry again and it failed again,
but I would do it in a heartbeat if I had a second chance,
with someone who I loved and loved me back.

Answer 8

It doesn't scare me, but I would never be married just for the sake of being married. I concider myself settled down. In fact, I never really was the unsettled type. I do have plans to marry and I think you know who. I really don't even concider myself single. The sweetest, most beautiful angel in the world loves me (-;

Answer 9

Due to some strange problems, one would be constrained to remain so till after 30. And, he knows the value of settling down than all others. But, when he does, he would make the most of it.

Answer 10

Well, my fiancee was single until he was 39, and we're getting married next year. Nothing about marriage scares him, he just kept getting women that he didn't want to spend the rest of the day with, let alone the rest of his life.

I can't say for myself, I ain't near 30 and I ain't single.