I'm aware of a young girl (early '20's) who for several years was attracted to much older (up to 35 years older) married men. She ended up marrying a divorced guy 30 years older than her.
The girl was attractive and seemed to be mature for her age. Never could understand why she'd allow herself to fall in love with married guys older than her dad. They weren't rich, so it wasn't a gold digger thing. In fact, even though she's married, she still contacts one of the former BF's and still seems to have strong feelings for him.
Any ideas of why she would behave this way?
2007-12-26 01:07:55 · 11 answers · asked by Tiger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She likes older men as some younger women do. He doesn`t have to be rich, established will do. Secure job and steady source of income. She is probably domineering and gets what she wants, exactly as she wants it, using her attractiveness as a weapon, unbeknownst to her man.
Don`t know if that is the case, but could be one probable explanation.
2007-12-26 01:21:34 · answer #1 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be any number of reasons. Some women have "daddy" complexes caused by some weird emotional dependence on their fathers. They could also be attracted by the maturity level. Older men are experienced and know how to treat a woman well. Older men can be more stable and are done playing the field. Older men may seem more secure.
2007-12-26 01:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some woman look for older men for 2 reasons. The first being a father like figure in her life and the second, is she may prefer older men because they should be more mature and established in their lives. She may have experience some high speed knucklehead who only wanted one thing and is trying something new. Also it is a sense of comfort knowing her man is older.
2007-12-26 01:18:37 · answer #3 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other answer that there is some psychological dependence on father figures. This is called the electra complex (as opposed to the oedipus complex, where sons and mothers or mother figures have an abnormally close relationship). Looking for married men also seems to indicate some insecurity issue - by taking another woman's man, she has a false sense of security - like she's better than the wife. She should see a psychologist to sort out her issues.
2007-12-26 01:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by WandaLust 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She may have never had a father figure in her young life and that could be what she is seeking* Another possibility is she likes the security an older man may be offering her! She may like being treated as a *child* There are many different possibilities!
2007-12-26 02:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by Me 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Older married men are desperate for sex (since marriage sucks) and they usually great at it. That and money are the main reasons younger women love older men. The other reason is that they don't have a father or the one they do have ignores them. They are just looking for love and they usually find it BIG TIME!!!
2007-12-26 01:59:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this is just her personal choice in men, such as some women like younger men or some like blondes, some like smart men, some really find funny men attractive. She just may enjoy the company of older men.
2007-12-26 01:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by Trisha 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm attracted to older men because men my age just aren't that mature yet. I want someone who knows what he wants and not have me babysit him.
2007-12-26 04:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree, when i was 42 there was this girl who was 25 that i dated for awhile, she was hotter than a three dollar bill. it was a great ride till she started talking about wanting kids, then it was time to head on down the road.
2007-12-26 01:35:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Serious mental problems. I'd steer clear of this gal until she seeks professional help.
2007-12-26 01:32:43 · answer #10 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋