how do i tell my wife she has a female odor without hurting her feelings?

Question

its an instant turn off. i like to perform oral sex on her but i wont now because of the problem.shes clean takes good care of herself.but there is an odor i cant get past

Answer 1

Tell her, but dont do it when your in the middle of messing around, or even in the bedroom. Just sit down and talk to her (she is your wife), tell her the way you would want to be told. Just tell her your concerned cause sometimes that can mean she has an infection or something. Tread lightly and good luck!

Answer 2

Look as long as you are going to be doing adult activities you may as well approach this problem in an adult manner.
You know from previous experience with her where you established a mental picture of what is normal for her that the foul odor is something new and as such is not part of her baseline .
You know that the only way that that baseline can change is if something new is causing it to change.
You know that the standards of proper sexual hygiene are being observed and yet the odor remains so therefore you know that the problem has nothing to do with cleanliness.
Since you know that you can throw the misogynistic "women are basically funky anyway " theory out the window and get to the root of the problem which is that your wife has a disease of some sort .
Since you are no doubt a loving and caring husband ,you approach the problem in the manner that a loving and caring husband would and tell your wife that you care about her and that lately you have noticed an unpleasant odor which could be indicative of an infection and that you would be more than happy to make an appointment with an MD for her so that this problem can be resolved and that she can get better.

Answer 3

I suffered from this problem and id was a fishy smell with a bad discharge that wold not go away no matter how mant times i bathed. I am suprised your wife does not know that she has a problem as when it is so bad that others smell it, it must be horrendus for her. Any way she has not caught any death defying disease its a simple case of bacterial vaginosis. a condition that the bad acteria start over powering the good, this could be because she is to clean ie; using soap products down there. She should simply use warm water and not douche just rub around the clitoral head to remove ny residue and thats it. She will need a course of metrodanzole, probably for three days and that problem will go as fast as it set in . Getting te fact to her is another matter but one that has to be addressed in a fragile manor and you know yourwife so its best you talk or show her this and i will chat with her saying as i have suffered from it to and was too scared to go to docs for two yrs!! All the best&Good luck

Answer 4

It is probably something she is eating. Perhaps it is something she eats that you don't eat? Garlic? Onions?
Meat?
If I don't eat meat people have a toxic smell to me.
I'd try to identify the odor and concentrate on what you all eat. Ask what she had for lunch each day and keep a "very hidden" record.
Is she taking any kind of medicine? That could be it too.
Depending on your relationship you may be able to talk about this with her - suggesting it is something she eats that you don't.

Answer 5

If my man told me i had a odour problem down there i would be too embaressed and nervous to let him down there again
Ask yourself if you would rather hurt her feelings or put up with it?
Do you think she would just say "ok sweetie i will go buy some femifresh" i doubt she would take it lightly but hope everything works out ok
Theres always things like after a bath sitting her on the ledge and going down on her or oral in the shower even..

Answer 6

Tell her that you heard that when women clean their punani with a little bit of white vinegar in the water, it really keeps it clean and get rid of unwanted bacteria down there and you'd like to taste her after cleaning the punani with the mixture to see if its' true.

It's a trick to have her do it, but 2 teaspoon of white vinegar in two cups of water will remove unwanted smell; it also good for yeast infection. Make sure underneat of her fingers are clean before processing (especially the middle finger, since it's the longest one and also the one to use for that job). Because if they are not, that could be the cause of the smell (bacteria + dirty underwear+dirty fingers = smelly punani).

She will use the middle finger to remove that white stuff inside her vagina while using the vinegar water to rinse it out clean.

Answer 7

If she goes to a gynecologist for regular check ups, maybe you could make an appointment and tell him before she gets there.Otherwise, just be honest and tell her that you have noticed a change in her body chemistry, and you are concerned and would like her to check it out.Sometimes, it is something that require both people to take medication to get it cleared up.Good Luck!

Answer 8

You are not hurting her feeling here,my friend. Marriage is all about communication and trust. Break it to her gently and tell her what you think. What kind of odor is she giving off? Is it offending you? How long have you performed oral sex on your wife?

Answer 9

Just mention "Are the neighbors cooking fish again" when the two of you are alone together. She will get the hint ...

Stop by a drug store you and your wife normally do not visit and get a few "samples" of some products meant to treat the issue.

Truthfully, with samples in hand:
Your wife will thank you for loving her enough to risk hurting her feelings and for getting a few items to help her in this. If you can smell it, others can too ... and she knows that.

Answer 10

That's a tough one. If it's something new, she probably has a vaginal infection, which isn't an std, but can cause odor. She may need to visit the doctor. Maybe you can go the route of suggesting you both get check-ups, if you haven't had them in a while, then that should be an easy suggestion.