speaking on his cell when i called him, not knowing his friend hung up, he said referring to us " we broke up, i looked around but now we are working it out and back together". i suddenly spoke and he was terrified. then he swore to God that he has never looked around while we were married..ever. he siad his friend is considering a divorce and he was trying to console him. i will say this, i once caught him on eharmony,which he said he left on so that i could get upset. i am 9 months pregnant and was so happy thinking we were finally working things out and now look. any advice, could he have just made up that story to his friend to comfort him.
2007-12-26 00:38:34 · 12 answers · asked by bluez 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am sorry that he is treating you this way and you are pregnant too. You need to have happy thoughts on while you are pregnant. It really affects your baby.
You will get negative answers for this question. I will suggest that you talk to your husband about how he is treating you and making you feel. You all will need counseling and both of you will have to be 200% into it in order for it to work
Best wishes and have a happy healthy baby.
2007-12-26 00:46:18 · answer #1 · answered by heartsarebad 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he is "a great reader and writer and very good at his spelling", WHY has he been diagnosed as "Dyslexic"? This is not possible. You must be completely confused about what a Learning Disability is in general, and your son's in particlar; My mind is boggled with what you must have told him. I suspect that there is something seriously amiss with your School Districts Special Education Dept. He is supposed to have a major evaluation every 3 years (includes IQ, change in diagnosis, etc.) which includes a major meeting attended by you AND him, so questions can be asked, clear explanations made, scores explained, etc). If this hasn't happened, GO RAISE HELL because it is Federal Law - Let them know you know, complain loudly that his diagnosis seems to not fit, and you feel that it's a harmful situation to your son! Did you tell your son that a Major part of the definition of a Learning Disability is that the person must have AT LEAST an AVERAGE IQ, and that people who are "STUPID" do not qualify! Also, at his age it is extremely common for school to get harder because there's a sharp rise in difficulty level and expectations. Go advocate for him and stop the guilt and drama because he will take advantage of that-lol It will also give him an excuse to NOT TRY.
2016-05-26 06:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could have made up the story to comfort his friend, but the fact that you found him trolling eHarmony or that he was trying to make you jealous sets off warning flags (he's immature and petty).
If you are pregnant with your first child together, he may be feeling the pressure of becoming a dad and is wondering if he is ready and up to the challenge (what type of family did he come from--intact or divorced or blended; what kind of relationship does he have with his father--loving or antagonistic). Will he be the only breadwinner? He may be having concerns about supporting the family on his salary alone.
Don't mention the eharmony viewing or the comment that he made to the friend, instead focus on his concerns and fears about becoming a dad and being the family provider.
Good Luck and congratulations on the new baby.
2007-12-26 00:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People can say what ever they want and swearing to God doesn't make it all that true,you have to look at his pattern and from what I'm hearing,hidden in between the lines is that, this is not the first time you've been unsure about this relationship. I know your pregnant and all your emotions are going hay-wire,but sweetie you have to look at your experience with this guy and everything that you've been through with him and recognize it as the truth,let the heart remind you of what was real with him and what wasn't,keep in mind that this child will NOT and I repeat NOT change him so don't be so gullible as to think it will somewhere down the road,you'll only be wasting more time.
2007-12-26 01:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by Sidetracked0260 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hunny you got issues , he stated : we broke up, i looked around but now we are working it out and back together , why did he feel the need upset you while your pregnant doesnt he know the stress and harm it could do to your unborn child? then he stated : he said he left on so that i could get upset. He's a grown man why is he playing mind games on you ? keeping you on your toes? does he think he's that great a catch you better not forget what you could lose if you dont bow down to the all mighty god of your home?
Your married to a child not a man tell him to grow the hell up or pack his trash and get out no 1 deserves to be treated this way how ridiculous and childish he's lucky he isnt my husband I'll tell ya that for free.
2007-12-26 01:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is and has cheated. If you still love him and you think he wants to stay with you forgive him over and over again. Why you ask? Because the next man will cheat on you too or worse. Here are the facts of life:
1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins all relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want to hear the truth. I don't lie.
2007-12-26 01:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Surely you can't be so naive to believe that just because someone swears to God means that they're telling the truth?
My lying, cheating now-ex-husband swore to God all the time. I hope he intends to answer for that on the Last Day.
Go with your gut on this one. This isn't the first time you've caught him in a lie. If it doesn't make any sense, then it's probably because what he's saying to you doesn't make any sense to anyone with a half ounce of brains. I think you're smart enough to know that he's messing around on you. Now it's just time to take action about it. You don't need his example for your child!
2007-12-26 01:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he was telling his friend to be careful about leaving his wife since the grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence. He "looked around" and realized he already had the hottest wife. That doesn't mean he sampled anything.
2007-12-26 00:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by dreamgirl 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would not worry about it. If he is cheating then that will eventually out. The risk of being wrong on your part outweighs the risk of being right. So assume you are wrong and give the marriage more of a chance. You can always decide you were right later. Luck!
2007-12-26 00:41:24 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i guess i am wondering what looking around means to you....i broke up with my guy for 6 months...his choice at the time..then we got back together...been married for 34 years...you are together with a baby on the way...just let it go and go on..he picked you.....enjoy now
2007-12-26 00:45:54 · answer #10 · answered by lanek 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋