to get others to ridicule you- and you feel theyve managed to influence alot of people to their way of thinking or managed to influence others to believe all the gossip or lies about you ?
theyve got alot of other people on board, around to their way of thinking....and you feel others have believed the lies and are now rejecting you to.
has this happened to you and what did you do in this instance or what should you do ?
2007-12-26 00:30:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Reputation is the key to political success. You cannot destroy a persons reputation by throwing mud at a person's reputation.
A reputation is made by your own personal experience of that person, and by repute from people you trust. If you trust nobody, then a persons reputation is only what you experience in person.
Lies and false gossip is used in warfare, as well as in playground bullying. It confuses, disorientates, and angers an opponent.
The key in responding to such a personal attack, is to say and do nothing about it unless it is direct and open in public. People who know you will know whether it is likely to be true or not.
It is a bit like keeping receipts for your credit card statements. It does not prove you did not spend what was on your statements, it only proves what you did spend. As you will only ever complain when there is an item which you dispute, what is the point in keeping receipts?
I have seen some people respond to this by saying that it enhances their reputation if they are deemed enough of a threat to merit such a personal attack. When you are told gossip about a person, ask yourself why this person appears to be such a threat to the person spreading this malicious gossip?
2007-12-26 03:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by James 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If that's what's happening, fair play to ya for dealing with it. It actually has happened to me before now, so I know how bad it feels. Yeah, it was real painful at first... I didn't know who to trust, or who to turn to for help and advice and such, but I see now that the people who do that kinda thing to others - isolating them - are complete and utter shitheads and are really not worth bothering about in the slightest. And when I realized that, I managed to speak up to them for the first time ever and I actually laughed in their faces. THAT annoyed them, lol.
The point is, once you let them see they can't get to you, no matter how hard they try to poison everyone you know against you etc, that's when they'll move on to the next poor victim.
Hope this helped in any way. Like I said before, if you wanna talk about it... you know where I am. Take care.
2007-12-26 01:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
confront the person who has made up all the rumours... like the other persom said turn it into a joke but then you will get no respect....i suggest u confront the person who started the romour ask her why she done it...accuse him/her of being jelous..which will annoy him/her and might stop making up rumours..another thing you can do it ask the people if they got any proof about these lies...and francally if they believe those lies then you deserve better friends then them... just keep smiling.. your not alone and one day u will get the last laugh xx
2007-12-26 01:16:39 · answer #3 · answered by freefaller 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot ignore it, but you have to ignore it. The advice I received was to keep well clear and out of the pain zone. Your enemies will not believe you. However, your friends will not appreciate the trouble that you are in! Not unless thay have had the same trouble themselves.
There is a web site somewhere. I will post it when I remember which one.
2007-12-26 01:02:54 · answer #4 · answered by Perseus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ye i have :( its not a good felling is it .. just suround your self with people you no love you for you and egnor the bad comments and people trying to put you down! you only live once and if you dwell on what outhers think then your never going to ples your self get out there and think. wow i have the best friend every and my famli are gr8 and fell sorry 4 the rest of them !! mi fave sayin...(( smile, it could be worce )) its good coz it always could be ! ly xx
2007-12-26 03:18:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends what the lies are. if they are really serious confront this person, but if they are just idle chit chat ignore them.
the person who is spreading these lies will be doing it to other people as well. people aren't stupid they will know that this person is just a gossip.
its hard, i know, but try and ride it out, this person will get their comeuppance for sure!
just try and look at this person with pity because their life must be prity crap. we only want to hurt others when we are hurting ourselves.
good luck . x
2007-12-26 00:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by zoezeph 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Speak up for yourself and set the record straight, if that doesn't work move on to make a new group of friends and start again.
2007-12-26 02:18:01 · answer #7 · answered by Snake eyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go up to the person who was spreading the lies, and confront them. "Hey, what's your problem? If you've got a problem with me say it right now."
People who gossip and spread rumors are cowards.
2007-12-26 00:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole A 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
normally i call them out but sence i do this it don't happen much at all to me! unless they want to be called out!
i will ask them were they heared it infront of everyone!@
then if you really think about it if it's not true and you know it's not true then really what does it matter what others think or say if you know the truth!
2007-12-26 00:34:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I'd remove myself from the situation entirely. And, from my conspicuously reserved conversation, my mother would know that I was upset by it..
2016-05-26 06:59:08 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋