I do. Since 11 years I live in America. I got married, have two kids and am happy. Yet the feeling of "wanting to be with the family" is not as strong anymore. I don't know if it's normal but even when I go and see them, after 2 days, I just want to leave ! Why do I have that feeling inside of me ?
2007-12-26 00:03:24 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Does the "distance" do this trick ? I love them but don't need them so much !
2007-12-26 00:04:14 · update #1
I guess it is true that home is where the heart is.
It sounds like your heart is with with your children and husband now which is where you are needed most. Sometimes when we mature and become independent the need for family comfort can lessen. That's not to say that the bond and love isn't there, it just means that you are your own person with different needs and responsibilities.
2007-12-26 00:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by Teresa S 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes. I left home when I was 17 to come to college in the US and have lived here since. Both my brothers live in the US too but in different states so we have to make plans to see each other and it's not very often at all. I could never see myself living at home so I don't really miss it. I see my parents at least twice a year which is fine.
I know what you mean about only being able to be around them for a few days. I feel the same way. It's a bit sad and all, but it's just how I feel. Our relationships are better in the sense that since we don't spend as much time together as we used to, we try to make the times that we are together as nice as possible. I do wish I could see my niece and nephew more though since they're similar in ages to my children...
I feel like I'm babbling so I'll wrap it up... I don't know if these feelings are valid or not. People say that you should embrace all your family etc, but I don't think it's something that you should force, otherwise it will turn out worse and could possibly end up hurting the relationships more than helping... that's my opinion anyway. Hope this helps at least a little. =)
2007-12-26 00:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by mac 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Warren, I am sorry to hear that you will be losing you mother. Every relationship is different and I think that if you don’t have a close relationship with your sister to begin with you probably won’t after your mother passes. Especially when a loved one’s passing is something you are expecting and doesn’t come suddenly. We lost our mom just over a year ago. She was ill but not deathly ill. Had been in the hospital several time but always came out and was able to get around and do things she wanted . . . except for the last time. Mom was the glue that kept our family close and stressed the real importance of staying close with your family, especially the siblings. My 3 sisters and myself were always very close as children and it has carried on through adulthood. I know, without a doubt, that that is what got me and my sisters through the trauma of losing mom. We were there for each other whenever we needed support. Even now, if I have an especially difficult day or night because I am thinking about mom and just don’t have the strength to get through it I will call one of my sisters and cry and I know she will console me no matter what time of the day or night and I do the same for them. And we have made a solemn vow to each other that nothing will ever destroy our relationships with each other because nothing is bigger than our bond. And we know that is the way mom wants it. I see a lot of siblings that allow petty things to come between them and they waste a lot of valuable time on dumb disagreements. Life is far too short to let that happen. And the passing of a loved one is proof of that. Please, work hard on rebuilding a bond with your sister. You will need her and she will need you. And God bless.
2016-04-11 01:04:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the most part my family live a few towns away from me. I do have a niece and nephew who live across the country, BUT I have only met them once, so I do NOT miss them in the least. We got off on a bad note the one time I met them. I believe you feel the way you feel because you live here in the US and are quite comfortable here. As such you leave to go visit family and are ready to come HOME in just a short few days / weeks.
2007-12-26 00:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents and my younger brother live right here with me....my younger brother lives about 150 miles away....but he came here on Christmas Eve. I think he has to go back to work tomorrow....which is unfortunate, because we probably don't see enough of him as it is.
I sometimes feel in my present situation that my parents are right on top of me....but I am sure I would be sad if I were not with them at this time of year. Having said that, we will probably all have had enough of each other's company before my parents leave for India on New Year's Day! They will be gone for 2 weeks.
I know I need quite a lot of "me time"....and I sometimes feel the need to get away after a couple of solid days in my family's company, too!
2007-12-26 00:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by hello world 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
No all of my family is close together. My parents are divorced but live within 35 miles of each other and there are 7 kids including me and we all live within 35 miles of each other too.
As far as yours I guess that is a good thing to feel like that. It means you are happy and content with your life and you already have everything you need. Just try not to lose touch with them completely. I am sure they still love you!!
2007-12-26 04:25:27 · answer #6 · answered by KELJO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I live in a different country believe it or not.
I know what you mean about wanting to leave after I've been around them for awhile. I don't know if it is just because I like being away from them or just because I like my distance...
2007-12-26 00:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
We're all scattered all over the place including one sister that lives in Germany with her husband. The only reletives I have here in Chicago are my own kids. We do somehow manage to all get together on Thanksgiving.
2007-12-26 02:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by ShrunkenFro™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MY mother lives in Heaven as do three of my sisters and I do miss them everyday but the missing has gotten a little easier as time goes by! I don't think it is the distance that matters, it is just that we learn that we can go on without them by our side!
2007-12-26 00:17:50 · answer #9 · answered by Me 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Not too far about 8 hours away, that is a great distance for me
2007-12-26 00:11:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋