When You've Been Betrayed...Are You Angrier At Yourself Or Your Betrayer?

Answer 1

Trust is a gift. It is given with a purity that can not be lost.

What others do with our gift does not change it in any way. Only you can change what it was it in your mind.

Don't.

love and blessings Don

Answer 2

This has happened to me a few times, mostly because I always see the potential in someone & think they will rise to meet it. On those few occasions when I have felt betrayed, I see both, their doing the deed, & my setting the stage. I also try to remember that most of the time a betrayal is not personal, they would have done it no matter who was involved. That helps to take the edge off a little. Funny thing is, I am usually in this position because I loved them freely. Any struggle I have at first are hurt feelings that they did not feel the same, or return the open caring I gave so freely. I get past this relatively quickly, but it is the initial cause of the pain. Once I get past it, I find I still love them, but usually need to assess if it is healthy for either of us to continue the relationship as it stands. Although I may need to keep my distance, for the health of both, my loving them will not change.
Wow, long winded, sorry, & Blessings!

Answer 3

well....i can't really be angry with myself. i don't mean that in a prideful or blameless way. the reason why i can't be angry with myself is because i have no reason to be. yea, but i was foolish, blind or too ignorant to see what betrayal was at work, but why take myself down further when i'm already down in the gutters for being betrayed? i mean, of course i'd probably be frustrated inwardly, but i don't rhink i'd be angry with myself for falling into a trap that was set to take down anyone. and at least it happened now, and not later, where there would be even more trust and etc thrown and burnt to ashes.

yes, i'd be angry with teh betrayer, but not with heated passion and long term duration. why? idk....i guess i'm just not heated for holding out grudges.

ah....i just realized that it's hard for me to explain because i haven't experienced, or at least don't remember, anything with being betrayed, or being the betrayer.

Answer 4

I would say first My Betrayer I want retribution but that is not very Christian like hehehehe.........

I let God see fit to take care of people like this..............

I get angry at myself for a little while and then I move on what can you do no use crying over spilled milk the damage has been done accept it and move on :)))

Answer 5

If i did nothing wrong, I do not need to be angry on me, but on the betrayer...and this generally happens like this.

basically i do not act in the manner to get in response "betrayal" attitudes, but life takes sometimes wrong paths...and betrayal can come. I learned to face that.

Answer 6

Myself.

Answer 7

The betrayer because they are actually killing a small a part of you in their betrayal. Depending on what happened, your faith in that individual and people in general is diminished.

Answer 8

Since it is unavoidable human behavior, there's not much room for anger. I have worked hard on developing a "slow to anger, quick to forgive" attitude and I'm pretty happy that way. As members of the human club, we are all fallible. peace

Answer 9

the betrayer and i would try to make him or her life turn to hell and after avenging my self i would be more angry on my self for spending time trusting and then taking revenge from someone who does not deserve even mentioning his name on a paper in a trash pin.

Answer 10

Usually myself.