I have known quite a few people in my life that have been vindictive. It used to hurt me when they did it, but now I just find it utterly pathetic. Like it's somehow a sign of weakness or a character flaw.
What do you think? Why are certain people more vindictive than others? And do you think it's more prevalent in one gender or the other?
2007-12-25 21:31:05 · 16 answers · asked by sublime 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Most of those who feel the need to be vindictive are insecure and have a low self-esteem.
They try to 'look' better in the eyes of the onlookers.
I personally ignore people like that and just move on.
Women seem to have that character flaw more so than men.
2007-12-25 22:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by *~Moi~* 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-04 03:22:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 09:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vindictiveness can come about as a result of being hurt or betrayed by people you love. Some people handle that well and some people don't.
I have probably seen vindictiveness--particularly the uglier manifestations of it--more in women than in men. I think part of that is because men are brought up to be tougher and handle hurt and betrayal better as a kind of environmental adaptation. Women are not taught those defensive mechanisms.
But even so, men do fall prey to vindictiveness in many circumstances or if they have not built up the typically male defenses that protect others.
Why are some more vindictive than others? People don't all react the same way to what the psychologists would call stimuli. I would chalk it up to individual differences, but also to upbringing and life experiences.
By the way, I am not a particularly vindictive person. I will admit to having had the desire to be vindicated at times, but that usually passed and I have generally been able to forgive and/or forget.
2007-12-26 18:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by Warren D 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
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I have known quite a few people in my life that have been vindictive. It used to hurt me when they did it, but now I just find it utterly pathetic. Like it's somehow a sign of weakness or a character flaw.
What do you think? Why are certain people more vindictive than others? And do you...
2015-08-06 01:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say vindictive people see the other person as trying to hurt them intentionally or unintentionally. I used to be a very vindictive person who took everything personally and always wanted to seek revenge. I wasn't a bad person but I grew up in an abusive home. It was so deeply rooted in my subconscious and am now in therapy to heal all that. People who are vindictive have a lot of pain from their past that they project onto their current reality, unknowingly. It is sad because those people are really tortured souls, and they pass their pain onto others. It's a cycle of abuse that we need to heal.
2014-08-25 18:16:45 · answer #6 · answered by Rara200284 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't buy the low self esteem excuse. I've found that the most vindictive of people are narcissists and or psychopaths. They care nothing for the harm they do others. All they want is to be in control at all costs and to mercilessly punish those who offend them. They are driven always by an inflated sense of self importance and a desire to be the centre of attention. There is no real human being in their. Their whole life is a performance in service of whatvthey deludedly believe are their own best interests. Such people are great at recruiting followers and admirers but heaven help those poor souls who see the light and attempt to leave the fold, as I did once.
2014-12-04 09:13:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I experience vindictiveness equally accross the genders - Ye s I think too that it is a limitation. Whatever they giveout they are ofing to themselves too so I reckon they must be in great pain and loss.My father in law used to really enjoy giving me a good sarcastic emotional kicking but I think his life was really empty. if he hadn't been family I would have stayed well away . Now I don't care if it is family or not I just go when anyone tries to hurt me.
2007-12-25 21:42:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this really worth disagreeing about in the grand scheme of things. Let it go and move on. Just agree to disagree. No need to keep discussing a subject that two people don't agree on. Her behavior is her responsibility, you cannot change her. Just be polite and kind to her and avoid any of her backstabbing attempts, the same way we all have to from time to time with family members or co-workers who do the same thing.
2016-03-22 13:36:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stay away from vindictive people.
2007-12-25 21:34:15 · answer #10 · answered by annswers 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋