to love truly, a man must forget about himself.
-Attar_
What are your thoughts about these words.
2007-12-25 20:58:28 · 17 answers · asked by I love you too! 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
You make me laugh -:) Sure is this also for women. In this quote they just used a he. -:)
2007-12-25 21:04:43 · update #1
I don't entirely agree with it. I wouldn't say that a person neglects their own needs in a relationship of any kind. Part of the relationship scenario is 'give and take'. It's a two way street.
2007-12-25 21:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by Gee Whizdom™ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do not like that quote. It is almost too romantic, and too unbelievable.
Realistic love seems this way to me.
Picture one heck of a guy, chivalrous knight, warrior soldier etc who is an expert in getting out of dangerous situations. He is capable of saving his own life and mine of course.
Why, if he cant save his own life, how on earth can he save mine too, by chance? maybe if weboth get lucky?
There are many heroes today who do not love but choose to act in an attempt to alter a very bad situation. In a split second of decision making, they disregard their lives.
It is not love but the stuff heroes are made of.
2007-12-26 05:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stupid words that are illogical and make no sense! You can't possibly love someone else if you have forgotten about yourself. You have to have a certain level of self-respect and self-esteem BEFORE you can truly love another. Other wise you end up being too needy and that isn't true love, its codependency!
I think maybe the quote means you have to think about someone else's needs and well being.... again I don't think anyone should totally put anyone else before themselves as that isn't what love is about is it? It would eventually make you resentful and bitter (in my opinion).
Love is about loyalty, acceptance, respect, wanting the best for someone else as much as you want the best for yourself.... its friendship with more intimacy, total trust and faithfulness. Its not about sacrificing your own needs for the sake of pleasing someone else!
2007-12-26 05:10:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
One who truly loves does not necessarily forget himself but has only made top priority the welfare of the people he loves.
2007-12-26 05:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by Rhythm of the Falling Rain 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Garbage. Love is what each individual decides it is at any given moment of their lives. You can love and love truly without sacrificing or losing yourself in it. And if you forget about yourself in love then love will be short lived, because in order to give of yourself you must have something to give. If you always place another first and forget yourself, then you are giving more than you get, failing to replenish yourself, and so will run out eventually.
Edit: Women tend to like this claptrap nonsense, though. Ask them to name any romantic movie and these are the elements it will contain:
1) It is always tragic and can never end in "And they lived happily ever after".
Examples of great romantic movies: Love Story, Titantic, and City of Angels. There are plenty more but I don't want to get too carried away.
2) The male character will always endure a tragedy, whether it be the loss of his life or the loss of something or someone important to him. If he looses his life it is usually in some effort to keep the main female charater safe, as in Titantic. If he doesn't loose his life, then the loss he endures must be lifelong. Oliver looses Jenny in Love Story and, although he may be happy for a short time with another in Oliver's Story, this doesn't last. In City of Angels, Seth gives up everything to be a mortal with Maggie, and then the very next day she gets herself killed and leaves him alone and devastated, with almost no idea of how to deal with his own mortallity.
3) The female character may endure a tragedy. If it's a loss it is usually in the form of the main male character's death. If the main male character dies, then the female character is still allowed to marry and have children and otherwise carry on. In other words, she can still have a life and some semblance of happiness while enduring her loss, something denied the main male character if she is the one to die. If she looses her life it usually has nothing to do with keeping the main male character safe.
Women are all about men sacrificing himself for them without thought but always feel they are owed in some way if they should sacrifice for the man. So for a lot of women your quote sounds good as long as it applies to the man.
2007-12-26 05:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I think that is a very true statement. When you truly do love someone, you don't think about yourself. You think about, what makes them happy, sad, angry. You would die for them, kill for them; its about them. It is only truly beautiful however, if two people are in love with each other, that way they both can get lost and no one gets hurt. If one loves like that, and the other doesn't. Heartache, heart break and possibly a stalker could imerge...lol...but seriously, those words are deep.
2007-12-26 05:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by They Don't Like Me! 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes, that is the concept of "true love" and just like all other concepts of absolutes, this one too is merely conceptual and not real... in reality, such true love can not exist because none of us is perfect. The real love that can be found in our world is invariably linked to self, one way or another, however dedicated it may be to the beloved.
2007-12-26 05:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by small 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
To truly love someone you think about hat they need and want long before what you want. This is what all parents do. This is what everyone in love does. No matter the type of love.
2007-12-26 05:06:31 · answer #8 · answered by anamaradancer 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
to truly love, you must give up selfish thought- conditions for love. Its kinda like the thought about charity. To truly give one must give until it hurts, or you do not understand charity. You are simply giving to make yourself feel better.
2007-12-26 05:11:23 · answer #9 · answered by dogwhisperer16 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
One must be able to love them self before one can truly love another.
2007-12-26 05:05:41 · answer #10 · answered by loveem 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋