how do you learn to let go of resentment?

Question

I guess everybody has felt hurt, betrayed and lied at by someone you cared the most? esp in my case lasted 6 years. He still tries to contact my friends, esp the girls and flirts with them. Nobody knows the story. But it makes me sick to see people praising him because they think he's nice and successful. I guess i haven't truly let go and have a lot of resentment. Please tell me how to let go of my anger once and for all and wish nothing of him? thank you

Hi, thank you so much for all your answers you've been a great help!
Well i guess its going to take a lot of time, because I've been incredibly humiliated too..hmm Thank you everyone

Answer 1

The Twelve-Step programs teach to Let Go and Let God. Try it.

Answer 2

If letting go of resentment is anything, it's difficult for sure. Part of it is forgiveness for what wrong the other person has done. Part of it is realizing that it may be beyond your control. Part of it is not letting resentment continue to dwell inside of you. And the last part, is understanding that with enough time, the feeling will fade from your mind and you'll be free.

With regards to your anger:
1.) Go somewhere large, open, and free of people.
2.) Scream, about whatever you want, at anyone you want.
3.) Repeat step 2 as necessary.

Answer 3

find happiness. i think the reason why a great number of people have resentment in their lives is simply because they are unhappy with the life they have. therefore i feel the best way to rid yourself of resentment for other people is to find happiness or contentment that will cleanse you of all the negativity you have.

i only have resentment for my parents and society and understandably so but the only thing that can wash this resentment away is by having and enjoying a contented life - i'm still waiting to find it but i'll get there even if it takes a lifetime it'll be worth it!!

Answer 4

Think that he's just human. He's not perfect, he commits(or should I say "makes"? just kidding.) mistakes like you.

Some may tell you "You don't have the right to be forgiven if you yourself don't forgive." It's very true but the bad thing to avoid in it is forcing yourself to do it just because you're stricken by it. It's much better if you do it willingly. Well, it may take a time of healing before you can forgive depending on how you're wounded but take your time. It's normal.

I could relate to your situation on seeing that person who had wronged you being praised by others. Well, we should just be realistic and think that there are also some good things in him. I know it really hurts seeing him being complimented by others while you have a bad image of him in your mind. I learned to separate my feelings to that person from his/her good qualities and achievements.

Just keep in mind that time will aid you in your journey to forgiveness. But you also have to do the right-foot steps. My best regards to you. :)

Answer 5

Sooner or later when an emotion is held for a very long time it becomes comfortable like an old pair of shoes or an old coat.

The best way to let them go is to just slip them off...

Answer 6

i understand your situation this has happened to me before. what i did is i talked to that person about how i feel, and then i prayed to God that he could help me to not feel that way because i was hurting people around me that i love, but in reality you have to realy not want to feel resentment in order for it to work, so look deep inside of yourself and ask if you have realy forgiven him.

Answer 7

listen lettting go is ultimatley our choice and a hard one we must remove our pride n ego to do this