Growing up I endured abuse as a child and lived in a stressful family environment. As a teen, I suffered severe depression and had many incidences where I did wild things and even once seriously attempted suicide. Medical statistics say that people with that background have more difficulty finding stable romantic relationships.
I'm extremely fortunate and have been with someone for 3 years, he loves me dearly, wants to marry me, and all my friends say that he's just a dream man, with a good job, family values, he's even gorgeous to top it off. Thing is...I haven't really had trouble finding men to stay with me. I'm not trying to sound stuck up, I admit that I'm moody, get depressed easily, and even have emotional flareups commonly. But I am extremely affectionate and try to make it up after calming down.
Anyways, long question short, I feel like of all people I'd have the most trouble keeping someone, so what exactly is it that keeps a man in a relationship?
2007-12-25 20:07:35 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
A good relationship carrys a few traits love, trust, and commitment. It's easy to stay in a relationship whe all is present. He loves you, trusts you, so it's easy to continue to be commited to you.
2007-12-25 20:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by frank61799 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try some kind of therapy to deal with your past and if he loves you he will go through it with you as much as possible. But also be confident, if this guy is as great as he sounds and he loves you and wants to marry you, you must have a lot to offer :-) Oh one more thing, before you get angry or depressed and have an out burst try to relax and count to 10 or 100 if you have to, close your eyes and breath in and out slowly and try to think of ways you can resolve the problem calmly. I know it may sound silly but it works. I think the way buddhists meditate is also something we could all learn from. If you ever see the Tina Turner movie Whats Love Got to do with it, that is how she dealt with her emotions. Good Luck Sweetie!
2007-12-26 04:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are your own person and you don't let the past rule your future.
If you ever think that the past is interfering with your ability to enjoy life, there is a great book by Dr. Laura Schlessinger...Bad Childhood, Good Life. It's easy to read and deals primarily with individuals who have suffered at the hands of adults when they were children.
2007-12-26 04:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by southwest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been with my BF going on 3 YRS =) what keeps a man in a relationship is great communication, understanding, and just being your own individual. If you arent tight with him and if he can do what whatever he is more likely to stay.
My BF is still with me basically cuz we're over the immature phase. we rarely fight now, if we do its just small arguments but we always talk it through and end up kissing for hours.
I keep my Man by keeping him happy. reminding him each day how much i love him and how happy he makes me. Most of all, a man stays in a relationship because he has found someone who shares the same interest as him, someone who can put up with him or understand him... .etc.
2007-12-26 04:16:57 · answer #4 · answered by love with your heart and mind. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still get bouts of depression, be sure to talk to your doctor about them. You may need a mild antidepressant. As for men, just don't act too needy or insecure. Make him feel appreciated and loved. Try to be understanding, and talk things out rather than trying to argue them out. Maybe you have just not met the right guy before this.
2007-12-26 05:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋