I have known this kid since 9th grade and now we are both 21 year olds in college. I have always had a crush on him but of course I'm not out so no one knows. One time about 3.5 years ago we were at my house and we were wrestling which turned into naked wrestling (it was just wrestling though, nothing else). A few months later we were visiting our friend and while watching tv we started to spoon as a joke. We were both under the same covers and then he started playing with my nipples. Other people were in the room so no one thought much about it. but ever since then we spoon a lot but still dont hide it. Once, he came to visit me and we were both in my bed drunk and he started sticking his hand down into my underwear trying to rub my butt. I stopped him of course. another time when we were drunk he licked my nipple and then laughed. just last week, since our third roommate left we spooned every night & wrestled in a pretty sexual way. He hooks up w/ many girls so im confused
2007-12-25 19:15:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I forgot to say that this past week, he told me one night that he liked spooning with me better than with his ex-gf.
2007-12-25 19:29:42 · update #1
but then again we always talk about these two other girls who we are in love with
2007-12-25 19:30:58 · update #2
Well first of all I think your roommate is either bi or questioning, so be very gentle with him in whatever you do, you dont wanna ruin a good friendship by making a bad move. That being said, I think that he likes you and since you've known each other for a while is comfortable with you. What I would suggest is the next time you "spoon" that you give him a small kiss (cheek, lips, hand whatever) and see what happens. If he kisses back then you have your answer. You might also try letting your hands wander around his body while "spooning" and see if he does the same. Just take things slow and follow his lead, that way he doesnt get freaked out and you wont loose a good friend if he isnt interested. Good luck!! I'd love to hear what happens, hopefully good!!
2007-12-27 16:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by Rich D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think he is confused of his sexual orientation.. He is attracted to guys like you and at the same time hooks up with other girls as well.. If you are straight, tell him off and dont spoon around with him. He might judge you and consider that you are a gay.. So, please stay away from him if you are uncomfortable with him. The choice is in your hands actually.. If it bothers you so much, confront him and let him know how you feel about his actions towards you..
2007-12-25 19:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by acer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be gay, but it definitely sounds to me like he's open to the idea.
I would say if you're willing to risk your friendship/roommate situation, to go for it. Next time you're spooning, push up against his junk and see how he reacts. Just take little steps to see how far he'll let you so... a little touching and caressing, a little body rubbing and licking... a little hands-down-the-pants action... go for it! It sounds totally hot!
And try to videotape it too! (lol)
2007-12-26 06:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by pceej 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you're only one of many, I can only say that as long as you provide it, he'll deliver. It sounds like you like him a lot. but it also sounds like he's all over the place. Do yourself a favor and stop this nonsense. If this isn't first love, then it's foolish love. You need some life in your years. You won't get them from him anymore than you'll get true love from him.
2007-12-25 19:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by Robert O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you said, she hooks up with many girls?
but you 2 spoons every night?
Can i ask somethin?
isn't that just for fun?
or does he do it with feelings?(the spooning thingy)
If he do it for fun, well, i think he's not gay.
if he does do it with feelings, saying good things about you and stuff that blushes you, compliments i mean.
Yup, he's gay alright.
Or lets say.. He likes yeh..
2007-12-25 19:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by Rida-chan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matt, your friend is Bi, he likes you and he likes girls. to what distance that is I'm not sure, but you should ask him if he has ever had thoughts of a guy as a sex partner and see where the conversation goes. also you should try girls, too! you may find you like them also.
2007-12-25 19:21:10 · answer #6 · answered by John M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if your friend is gay or not, but he sounds sexually abusive. I suspect he treats some girls this way as well.
He is using you as a sexual plaything. Decide whether or not you want this attention from him. If you don't, tell him to stop. If he continues, dump him, and report him.
You might talk to a counselor or a rape crisis center to get a third person's opinion on whether or not this guy is a sexual abuser and molester.
I wouldn't be surprise if he's raped somebody, or tried to.
2007-12-25 19:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by MNL_1221 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
To cut confusion, just be damn blunt and ask your roommate his sexual orientation. Most likely the person is bisexual.
2007-12-25 19:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by Jonus A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...thats kinda how me and my roommate use to...i was always open about being bi...shes always said shes straight..but now we have our fun together ;) they way i see it...he maybe a closet gay too....good luck!
2007-12-25 19:20:46 · answer #9 · answered by rose05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds confused too or he is bi.
2007-12-25 19:19:54 · answer #10 · answered by Helena 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋