I'm married and I don't have a good relation ship with my in laws. Unfortunelly my wife doesn't care about that and she invite them to our house with-out my agreement. I don't want them in my house. What can I do when they are in my house?. Can I call to the police for put them out?.
Sorry for my grammar I'm learning English. Actually I live in San Frncisco Ca.
Thank you for your help.
2007-12-25 18:22:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know. You need details. My in laws are very unrespectful and impolite to me.
2007-12-25 18:41:48 · update #1
Unfortunately, there really isn't anything you can do but to deal with it. You gotta ask yourself.... Do I love My wife and Am I willing to do anything to keep her? She obviously loves her parents a lot and is not willing to give them up. What you should do is sit down with her and talk, to understand more about her and her family values. Then ask her why she insists on bringing her parents there, even when she knows you are not comfortable with it. When all else fails just try and find a common ground with the in-laws so you don't have to feel like a stranger in your house. Just don't leave all the time when they show up, it just won't look good and you might not be married for long.
2007-12-25 18:35:47 · answer #1 · answered by james k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you certainly can call the police on your in-laws, but remember they are your wife's parents. I won't do that if i was you, you should see where the problem started at and take it form there. If you can handle it talk your wife, but put yourself down by calling the police. Think about your family and don't act without measuring the consequences.. Happy New Years!
2007-12-26 02:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jorge L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardles of what they did to you or didnt...You need to respect them because the are parents of your wife..on the other hand you and your wife need to bond so nothing goes in between you two.
I dont think you as a couple have enough respect for each other and your wife does something you dont want...??? means that you guys have some problems minor..or huge...that need to be solved immediatelly..
I'been through stuff like that and in my case my wife didnt love me enough to stand by me and that made me and my inlaws ,and my wife to have problems all the time.Just try and talk to her..make her understand that within a marriage a third person is everybody else....respect eachother..
Hope you work out things...
2007-12-26 02:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by TOXOTIS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong, do not let them stay in your home, do they have enough money to get a motel room? if so they do need to stay there while in town. Your wife must understand this, oh you say she doesn't care how u feel , if this is true, please, u and ur wife need some counseling so u can let her know ur feelings or u will go nuts. if you can't get this settled maybe u need the time away from her and you can go to a motel but have the in-laws or your wife cover the bill.
2007-12-26 02:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by Chattim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Police?Why?Are they there to kill you,to comit a crime?That is your wife's family you are talking about.She can't just forget about them and get them out of her life.Maybe you don't have the same family values as she does,but you have to respect them if you have any respect for your wife.I mean would you be OK if she called the cops for your family?If you want a peaceful married life you have to respect her family.If you respect them,you will get some respect back.Just try and you'll see.Calling police is like pouring gasoline on fire.
2007-12-26 02:33:26 · answer #5 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure your valuables are locked up. When they come over, go out and take a nice drive around the city. i live in SF also and there are tons of places to sit down, have a coffee and a pastry. Of course, talk to your wife about it also.
2007-12-26 02:26:15 · answer #6 · answered by ibelieve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u really shouldnt call the police on them.and u shouldnt not let them come cuz then your wife might get mad and that could create a biiiiiig problem....maybe u should just play cool and try to understand them and like them again.
2007-12-26 02:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by TGIC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What have they done so wrong that you don't even want them in your house? We need more details.
2007-12-26 02:25:08 · answer #8 · answered by feline_farmer1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a patience, don't do anything which may cause you in more troubles, try to please your wife if possible and then do whatever you want to do.
2007-12-26 02:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY DONT U LIKE THEM?
WELL TO START WITH THE POLICE CANT TAKE THEM IF THEY DIDNT COMMIT ANY CRIME SO THATS NOT A GOOD IDEA LOL, AND WELL IT SEEMS LIKE IDK UR WIFE SHOULD CARE ABOUT WAT U THINK UR HER HUSBAND N U SHOULD TALK N TRY TO WORK THINGS OUT
GOOD LUCK
2007-12-26 02:28:13 · answer #10 · answered by Jussiie Fresita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋