I am known for my anti-social behavior, its hard to break this habit but I need to. I went to an all girls christian high school, my parents were extremely strict and so I was not allows to have a lot of friends or socialize with guys until I left home for college at age 18. Now that I am out of college I am literally scared of meeting new people, I am afraid of socializing with guys especially in numbers. I have 3 best friends now all long distance and this is the way I like it because I hate to socialize. People mistake my anti-social behavior for being stuck up. I really want to change this, but how do I start to become more sociable and do not come of so stuck up?
2007-12-25 17:47:10 · 4 answers · asked by suerone 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
You just have to keep trying. It will come easier with practice and time. I had the same problem and tried taking speech and team classes to overcome it, but the truth is you don't get as much time to practice the right behaviors in the classes. Just force yourself to talk to people.
2007-12-25 17:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by Bumblebee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very quiet and people have mistaken me as stuck up too. I find the best way to fix this is to just tell people when you meet them that you are not used to being around of a lot of people. Even though I hate going to clubs and bars, I would go with some friends to get over my anti-social tendencies. Don't force yourself to make friends, friendships just happen, while your at work you may get along well with some people and it can turn into a friendship. But if you're looking to date, the try going to the 2 minute dating gatherings at bars. That way you can meet new guys and it will only be for 2 minutes. Also try to join a group that hold your interests. Good luck
2007-12-25 18:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by Miss 6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like small talk? This is when people talk about things that seem insignificant such as weather or sports teams that they pretend to know something about. If you do not like small talk then you will have to work harder than others at socializing. The following things might help:
-Try to have meaningful conversations with individuals that you find interesting. This can be easier than trying to socialize in a large group in which you feel like you have to compete with others just to socialize.
-Ask intelligent questions that people enjoy answering. Questions are great if you are not the type of person who is good at taking what you are thinking and turning it into interesting conversation that people like listening to.
-Plan to be social every day that you intend to be social. If you are an introvert and you do not mentally prepare for social settings by planning to be social, you probably will not have a very fulfilling social experience if the people there are not exceptionally friendly and take the initiative to converse with you.
I hope this helps!
2007-12-25 17:59:30 · answer #3 · answered by Nikolas M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend has the same problem he is VERY shy and it helps when you join activities like helping around town or your neybour make sure you always talk to your 3 best friends because if you cant make friends where u are now it might b hard to talk to your old ones
2007-12-25 17:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by Corwin C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋