I love her so much, but yet, I can't stop talking to woman online for the purposes of sex....I love my wife more than anything in the world. She hasn't caught me, but I want to stop before something bad happens. Please help me... I don't want her hurt.
2007-12-25 16:37:17 · 29 answers · asked by Echowave 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
then turn off the effin computer.
2007-12-25 16:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by Sinister 4 · 10⤊ 1⤋
Just stop. My boyfriend did this to me and I can't even explain how deeply it hurts. It is horrible.
Stop going on the sites. Watch porn instead if you have to. Better yet, have sex with your wife. She's probably picking up that there is something going on. Every time you log on to one of these websites you are completely disrespecting your wife.
Move the computer into a room where she often is. Don't even go on the computer when she's not at home. If you have any children, buy some software to block porn and adult sites and get your wife to put the password in and not tell you what it is.
Consider the fact that she might already know. If she's installed some spy software or found anything already, she'll be waiting for you to do it again and waiting to confront you. Next time you go on to a website like that, consider that she will find out. Then log out and don't talk to anyone.
Be a man. You're not a little boy. You control your own actions.
2007-12-26 04:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to examine the root cause my friend. Cyber sex, or whatever it is you're doing is only the symptom. Is she not fullfilling a need? Does she KNOW of this need? Is there no stimulation in the bedroom? What does the online thing mean to you? Is it more important than your wife?
Instead of talking to women online, you might try talking to your wife. You might be surprised that she's into whatever type of talk your doing online. Try getting HER a computer, and talking to her the way you've been doing. Sort of a cyber-role playing. But above all STOP the online woman conversations. She WILL find out eventually, and it could very well end your marriage. At the very least she's going to know there's something wrong with the relationship. If talking to HER does'nt work for you, you SHOULD talk to someone. Like I said, something's up, and you should nail down exactly what it is, and quickly
2007-12-25 19:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself why you are doing this, there must be an underlying cause. If it is a problem with your wife then talk to her about it.
It sounds as if it has become an addiction and the only way to stop it is to turn the computer off but then your wife may wonder why you are not using it. So I suggest using your computer openly while she is in the room with you. The guilt trip should then prevent you from doing anything naughty.
You could also think about the husbands and partners of these women you are chatting with and put yourself in their shoes. If you found out your wife was doing the same thing you would be livid, I know I would, so pack it now. There's a good boy.
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2016-05-17 16:15:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just have to say stop. You should look at your relationship with your wife and ask yourself what it is missing that is making you so addicted to someone in the cyber-world. Answer that question and it may give you the answers you seek. Other then that, if she finds out there will be serious consequences, and trust issues and trust is the key to a successful relationship. If you don't want to hurt her, and you do love her, you need to cease all contact with cyber woman, and look at your wife and understand you do not want to lose her.
2007-12-25 16:46:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most likely, you're doing this because you need to reassure yourself that you are desireable or worthy. It is addictive, as well. I would suggest counseling only because it is such a difficult addiction to kick. Otherwise, I would recommend keeping yourself super busy in other ways so you don't have time to go online. Delete ALL of your accounts - tell your wife you were getting too much spam mail or something. Start reading or take a class to take up the extra time you are using to go online. Put the computer in the bedroom or someplace where you'll be less likely to go on it.
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2016-04-26 16:57:48 · answer #8 · answered by livia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you chea on her cyberlly, are you "doing it" with the same women over and over, or are you just interested in cyber sex with anonymous women?
Could be that you just need to spice up your own sex life instead of looking to the computer. If you're looking at pictures of other women online and you consider that cyber cheating, then try to incorporate porn into your relationship with your wife.
If you're having contact via e-mail with other women and this is what's turning you on, then maybe you just need your wife to turn on more of the sexual charm at home.
Figure out what excites you about the cyber cheating and try to bring that to your own bedroom (even though it might not exist now) so that you don't hurt your wife.
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2007-12-25 17:05:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Block the sites you visit on your comp so when you are tempted it will be more difficult and the bother will slow the whole thing enough to make you think......or have a stratagy in place when the urge creeps up......go and do something else.....or switch offf... will power......like coming off any addiction for that is what it has become an addiction. Even seek help ............re channel the energy to attention to your wife...do things together.. re kindle.
2007-12-25 19:54:11 · answer #10 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to eliminate opportunities you now have to use the computer anyway that is feasible. You could just get rid of the computer but that may not be reasonable. Get someone to load a watchdog software that blocks sites where you usually go, and all porn sites, without giving you access to passwords etc. If this doesn't help go to a therapist for help.
2007-12-25 16:46:31 · answer #11 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋