I have had a crush on this guy for over two months now.We work at the same place but in different department.The crush is so big now that everytime I see him,I just want to jump on him,hug him,kiss him everything. I'm bisexual and he doesnt know it.
I want to tell him that I like him a lot but i'm afraid of what his reaction will be because I don't know if he is gay or bisexual!
So should I tell him that I like him?Do you think the best way would be to call him,to text him or to just stand in front of him?
Have you ever told a guy/girl you liked him without knowing his/her sexual orientation??What Happened??
2007-12-25 16:35:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Good question. I think that if you have a crush on this guy and that it's gotten this far, maybe you should invite him out for a few beers or dinner or even coffee. If I were you, I wouldn't just jump right into telling him your sexual preference because it might scare him away since he doesn't know you all that well and stuff. Does he seem like the kind of guy that would accept your sexual preference? if he accepts you, then I don't see any harm in letting him know of your feelings but please be careful because though you like him, he might not return the gratitude. Kind of warm up to him and get to know him a bit longer then go forward with what you plan on doing because think about it, if he isn't gay or bi, but totally thinks it's cool that you are then you might have a shot or not, but you will know where you both stand on the issue. If he reacts with a weird look on his face, that's a sign that says, "STOP, go no further" because he could either be a "gay basher" or just a guy that is uncomfortable about gay men or he might misjudge this as sexual harassment. I have been in those shoes before and it happened like out of nowhere. I asked a guy out for coffee and he wasn't available because he had a gf and another incident was when I asked a guy out but he was engaged to be married. But I didn't give up hope and now i'm with the man of my dreams. Well I hope that it all works out for you and everything. email me for advice and keep me posted on this, I hope it works out well and you get a chance with him. All the best to you.
2007-12-25 16:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by S A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! this is a tough situation, that I have never been in! But I think that I would try to figure out his orientation before approaching him with your feelings. Maybe a co-worker knows and can fill you in?
Good luck! I hope it goes your way!
2007-12-25 16:42:20 · answer #2 · answered by forthcoming 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Im coolkd
As I told this guy I would ask to hangout not labeling the it as anything else but hanging out go somewhere with him like the movies or even lunch. Get to know him first If he likes you im sure you will know. But if he turns you down thereare always more guys around.
2007-12-25 16:42:01 · answer #3 · answered by ☆DUH☆ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i were u i would invite him to a bar or something. i'm assuming ur over 18. try and get his view on gays and bis. and do it in person. never call or text. it's rude. but be warned don't tell him u love him right away either. give it a week or so. cause telling him ur bi is gonna be a lot to handle.
2007-12-25 17:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by Torque 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't if I were you. Keep your private life out of the office
2007-12-25 16:39:49 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋