Not to long ago... i was helping my mom get the groceries out of the car and i saw a box of condoms! i just went along while my mind was racing, and acted like i didnt see anything. then i was putting them on the counter when my mom's bf walks in and takes the bag with the box in it and takes it into the bed room. he then comes back a few seconds later and i asked him what he was doing. he played stupid ofcourse. i let it go. then the next morning i found a condom wrapper on the couch. so i went in my moms room where she was and confronted her. shes like 'do you know what that is?' and i started crying because just the thought of my mom...ugh..the worst part is, it was oviously with her boyfriend-(mom and dad split up 2 yrs ago) and he JUST moved in. then we both calmed down and i helped her put her bed sheets on and i glanced over, and in the nightstand drawer, and a rainbow of condoms. so im basicaly scarred. Please, PLEASE dont make fun of me. help or dont help.. thanks everyone
2007-12-25 16:33:42 · 8 answers · asked by ineedhelp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry your so scared.Have you told your Mom that's how you feel ? And have you thought about why your scared ?
Thinking on that might help you work through it , also try writing down your thoughts and feelings in a journal.
But as for your Mom, I'm afraid her sex life is her personal business.You need to try and not be nosy (seeing how many condoms are there) and stuff like that. However as far as the condom wrapper on the couch goes, maybe you could ask your Mom to try and be a little more discreet about leaving things laying around because it makes it hard to mind your business.Now please don't take this scolding the wrong way its really more for your benefit than hers.Sometimes there is stuff that you just don't need to know. It is okay to express your fears with your mom but without trying to find out about her sex life.
I know its complicated but your going to get use to it ( even if you don't think you want too !!!). Try writing in your journal. God bless you sweetie.
2007-12-25 16:57:37 · answer #1 · answered by Jesus rocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is an adult and it is her business what she does in and out of her house.
I know it can be hard to find things like condoms around the house but you should be supportive of your mom's decisions. I think you should be thankful that she is using protection so she doesn't get any disease that would cost her her life.
Besides someday you may just get to return the experience with her when she comes to your apartment/home and finds condoms there as well.
There really is no reason for you to be scared - take time and think about this instead of reacting cause you dont like what she is doing.
Perhaps you could explain to your mom that you really feel uncomfortable about her having condoms - both used and unused laying around the house; and maybe she will keep them put out of sight.
Good luck to you and remember that "calm" communication is the key to happiness
2007-12-25 16:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by PJ Solutions 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you're feeling.
You know, even when people who
are not related share flats and houses
it's a bit offensive to find remnants of
condom use; tampons and so on scattered
around. Your mum will understand that.
So, ask your mum to make an agreement
with you. They agree to be discreet and
keep bedroom activity to her/their bedroom,
and you agree never to go into that room.
That seems fair and something like an
agreement that flat/house mates would
make.
Best of luck with it.
2007-12-25 16:50:45 · answer #3 · answered by Pandora 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is perfectly natural for your mom (that's why your here, after all) but still..just ask her to please keep her business to herself..they definitely do not need to be doin it out on the couch..you sit on that thing!
2007-12-25 16:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by javaKat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, your mom & dad split up two years ago and your Mom has a boyfriend and they are having sex. What is your question????????
2007-12-25 16:42:09 · answer #5 · answered by sandy t 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell mom she needs to act her age and have him as well no shame in them but having childeren make a bed where she.s doing it is no shame in her. or him she needs to act more like a mom than a well easy tramp. my opion? make fun of you no way she is the one who is looking like a make fun by him really?
2007-12-25 16:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
just relax....ur mom is in a relationship and shes happy...there is nothing u need to worry about
2007-12-25 16:47:26 · answer #7 · answered by Sony 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how bout you stop worrying about your moms sex life, it really none of your business. Be happy she's practicing safe sex.
2007-12-25 16:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by Mastermind 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋