Not to long ago... i was helping my mom get the groceries out of the car and i saw a box of condoms! i just went along while my mind was racing, and acted like i didnt see anything. then i was putting them on the counter when my mom's bf walks in and takes the bag with the box in it and takes it into the bed room. he then comes back a few seconds later and i asked him what he was doing. he played stupid ofcourse. i let it go. then the next morning i found a condom wrapper on the couch. so i went in my moms room where she was and confronted her. shes like 'do you know what that is?' and i started crying because just the thought of my mom...ugh..the worst part is, it was oviously with her boyfriend-(mom and dad split up 2 yrs ago) and he JUST moved in. then we both calmed down and i helped her put her bed sheets on and i glanced over, and in the nightstand drawer, and a rainbow of condoms. so im basicaly scarred. Please, PLEASE dont make fun of me. help or dont help.. thanks everyone
2007-12-25 16:30:44 · 10 answers · asked by ineedhelp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keep in mind, your mom was probably just as petrified about it as you are.
Your Grandma probably never said a word to her about sex either, back when your mom was 13....So, she has no clue what to say to you now.
If it bothers you, then ask her to clean up after herself next time....don't leave things laying around.....
Other than that, Don't let sex scare you or worry too much about it. Believe it or not, sex is the most natural thing in the world.
I don't understand why Americans are so afraid of it...
My best advice to you, is to keep asking your mom about it. Don't give up until she gives you some straight information! If your mom won't help at all, then your second best bet is to ask a doctor, a Gynecologist preferably.....
2007-12-25 16:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by WOMBAT, Manliness Expert 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is unbelievable that in the 21st century, parents are still not able to address the topic of sex with their pre-adolescent kids. I think you're old enough to understand what goes on between a man and a woman. Your mother, unfortunately, is not comfortable enough with her arrangement to talk to you as she should. A man has a penis (which is what the condom is for), which protects the woman from getting pregnant if used properly. The woman has a vagina between her legs, which you can't see; but the man inserts his penis into it. It's a very good feeling, if both people know what they're doing. If the sexual feelings that result from the stimulation of the penis inside the woman's vagina are intense enough, one or both people have what is called an orgasm. It is a terrific release of energy that's been building up during intercourse. I advise that you not get sexually involved during your early or middle teens. It's best to wait until you feel ready for such an intense experience. I say this because women, especially, can mistake the strong sexual feelings she experiences as being love, when it is just the love of sex. I hope I haven't given you too much information; but you seemed really ready for it. This should allay any anxious feelings about what is going on. I just wish your mom and her boyfriend were more sensitive to you,
2007-12-25 16:53:53 · answer #2 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Sweetie....
Your mom prolly hasnt givin you the talk yet cause basically you are not really ready for it.... i know that all the girls and boys your age prolly already know about it but at the right time im sure your mom will sit you down and talk to you about it..... on the other note.... your mom and boyfriend are grown and can do as they please but i would simply ask your mom to not leave the condoms laying around.....sex is a very natural thing its nothing to be scared about.... IF YOU USE PROTECTION..... which your mom and her boyfriend are so just wait and the time will come for you and your mom to have that talk...... but if you simply just cant wait for that time just go to your mom and ask her .... mom will you tell me about sex.... trust me she will be shocked but it will open her eyes a little....
bye and good luck
K
2007-12-25 16:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by Kimolay 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 08:39:09 · answer #4 · answered by nisbett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mother's sex life is none of your business and there is no reason for her to discuss it with you. Yes it's embarrassing to know that your parents have sex. She was having sex with the BF before he moved in. If your parents were still together, then she'd be having sex with your dad. (for a real ewww factor--contemplate your grandparents having sex--DON'T ASK, please just don't ask....)
As to your mother not having the sex talk with you. She was probably waiting for you to say something to her or she was leaving it to your health and biology class to do the work for her. If you feel like there is something you need to know or want to talk about with your mom, bring it up. Yes it's embarrassing and uncomfortable, but I guarantee that she would rather you talk to her than get your info from strangers or peers who may not have the facts straight.
Good Luck and it really could have been worse, you could have walked in on them, then you'd *really* be scarred.
2007-12-25 16:48:04 · answer #5 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first off your mom and her boyfriend need to do that stuff in the privacy of their room second talk to her and ask her to explain the whole thing to you and the importance of safe sex or ask a counselor at school do not be afraid of the situation at hand you are young still and your mom probably did not think you were ready for the talk yet hopefully she will understand your concearns and talk it over with you
2007-12-25 16:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by PURPLE D 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you just confront your mom about the whole thing. I know it'll be very difficult to do, but it must be done. Tell her how you feel, both about her relationship with her boyfriend in general, and about this specific recent incident. You might not be able to change anything, but I think your mother needs to know how you feel about all of this.
Good luck! Best wishes.
2007-12-25 16:38:27 · answer #7 · answered by Emma 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would never make fun of you. It must have been devastating for a 13 year old girl to realize her mother is having sex. I do believe your mother should use some discretion. She should be more careful about what she leaves lying around. I hope the situation gets better for you.
2007-12-25 16:40:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
well i think your mom isn't acting like a mom...
because you shouldn't be just leaving your condoms around...
and the talk sometimes you don't need it... i never got the talk
and well maybe if you want handle the way your mom is acting...and i wouldn't be able to do it... just move in with your dad...
he might be able to handle those things better then your mom seems to be handling her business
good luck!!
2007-12-25 16:35:56 · answer #9 · answered by Selina 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
yeah ur mom is not being a good mom. u should talk to her about it. like right away. and if your that scared then go to ur dad.
2007-12-25 16:40:33 · answer #10 · answered by Shark Attack 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋