What to do when family/husband doesn't seem to care if you miscarry or not??

Question

My husband's family has been mean eversince I got pregnant. My mother-in-law gets mad at me for everything. They pick on me cause I have 3 boys. My husband doens't do anything about the stress that they are putting my under, they didn't do this with my other pregnancies. My mother-in-law even asked me if I had had any alcohol, so that I could drive. Everyone is acting like they don't care what happens to this baby. They weren't even happy when they found out. It seems like I am the only one who cares if I miscarry or not. Maybe the only reason I have boys is cause they are the only ones that can handle the stress I am put under. This is turning out to be a horrible holiday season.

I have been having bad dreams about this pregnancy and it doesn't seem to be going anything like my others. Well it sounds like not many of you care either.

I've taken as much as I can take from her. She has been upset since we decided to have another.

Answer 1

Sometimes in life we have to let things go in one ear and out the other.
It sounds as though you need some TLC.

Answer 2

I think abuse is the only absolute deal breaker that I have. Everything else you listed depends on the extent and circumstances. Apathy is probably next on the list of least tolerable, and I would probably only tolerate it if there is a really good reason (they are going through a rough time) and I believe it is temporary. Same thing with selfishness, there are times when a person needs to take care of themselves and be selfish, again I'll go with it if there is a legit reason and temporary. Cheating is something that can certainly be a deal breaker, but there has been one occasion in my life where it was not. I gave this person another chance, so it is something I can live with as long as certain conditions are met. All the other stuff I can work with, unless it's like a crazy constant pattern with no room for compromise.

Answer 3

Wow sounds like there's allot more going on behind the scenes than you are aware of. It sounds like your husband (and his family) have strong opinions about this pregnancy, maybe he's stressed he can't afford another, who knows what? You definitely need to discuss it with him, you are taking this whole thing way too personally thinking it's all focused at just you. He and you need to resolve these issues before the baby shows up on the scene.

Answer 4

The way you phrased this question is odd, not that why doesnt anyone "care that you are pregnant: but "care that if you miscarry"

why this focus on the miscarry versus celebration of the pregnancy. I sense by your wording there is more going on with you - versus your family - that you are letting on.

Also the majority of the people who responded here were on your side, I think you are freaking out when you say "many do not care either" These are complete strangers, who are on your side, its insulting to them to say that.

Answer 5

Solution? Avoid his family.

I'm not sure what's going on with your husband, from what I've heard from you he's not supportive at all.

Try to remove yourself from the stress is all you can do.

((HUGS))

Answer 6

Trade them in on a new family. Tell your husband to get on the band wagon or you are gone.

Answer 7

Your husband needs to grow up and stand up to his family and let them know you are uncomfortable. If your husband doesn't say anything they will continue to pick on you.

Answer 8

It sounds like your husband and his family are all tweakers. If so call for an intervention session and save yourself and your kids.

Answer 9

don,t pay no mind to them just do whats best for you and your kids and as long as your happy is all that matters. Once the baby is born they will be all over that baby. babies are irresistible

Answer 10

ignore them