Am I wrong to want to be a virgin and wait until marriage? I am 22 years old virgin. I am fed up with young men who do not value women. All they want to do is sleeping with women and labored you as a ****
I am at the points that I do not want to date or go out with men because at the end --all they want from me is affection or sex.
I am a good looking girl. I am a virgin and very conservative.
2007-12-25 15:54:56 · 20 answers · asked by Hope 4 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Never mind ten points.
I will give you my piece of advice.
Maintain your dignity at all costs.
Some day you will find the right person to marry.
Be positive about him and towards the life.
If by any chance it does not click despite your best attempts, turn another leaf of life. And try not to be rueful about the past.
Lead the life in a healthy and positive manner and try to be helpful to others.
2007-12-29 14:21:20 · answer #1 · answered by Ishan26 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with that, just make sure that the man you marry will satisfy you, or it will ruin your marriage. Its the harsh truth, no matter how much you love him, if you're not sexually compatible, it will ruin your marriage. For some reason sex is seen as dirty and disgusting if done before marriage. Sex can be a beautiful thing between 2 consenting adults. What you should avoid is having babies with people you don't intend to be with long term. If you're 22 then I bet you're dating BOYS that are 22. Boys at that age are just immature, they're young and inexperienced. What do you expect? Its part of life. If you happen to find a boy who is able to appreciate you then he is ahead of his time.
Also another reason is (and this might just be a judgment call) is that since you consider yourself attractive, you're going only for boys that are attractive as well. You might be ignoring the nice guys. Not suggesting that this is your fault, but I purposely avoid extremely good looking curvy women because I know they are going to attract other guys and soon she will find someone who is better than me. That's another harsh truth.
2007-12-26 11:26:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main thing is to not judge and realize that they are theirself with their desires, just like you are yourself with your desires. There are many that would judge you for the same but opposite reasons. If they don't posses the desires that you are looking for especially in the same area and magnitude then go find someone else that does.
But remember that the more picky you are the longer it will take for you to find the "one", but the advantage is that you will be more satisfied. And the less picky you are, the sooner he will come, but the disadvantage is that you wont be as satisfied. So what really is gained? There really is no gain in either aspects, but it might be wise to pursue/accept someone exactly in between what you do and don't want, so you can have it in the least time possible with the most amount satisfaction.
However, don't get caught in a trap accepting anything that comes along your way where you have zero satisfication. And neither get caught in accepting nothing that comes along your way, hoping for something that doesn't really exist. So it is wise to go after exactly what you want but do not be too picky or judgemental in the process.
And it is perfectly natural for you to want what you want, and there is nothing wrong with that. Just as long as it works for you, and its what YOU trully want and not something programmed in you by external influences. Many times the idea of marriage is one that is taught, but remember nobody's perfect so don't expect them to stay the same. Just stay together as long as you are happy because you never know if you'll find a better one along the way and if the person you "trully" love will always be the person you believe or want them to be.
2007-12-25 17:16:50 · answer #3 · answered by Source 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will open your eyes for you.
The reason your idea is silly is because of yourself. You assume all men want from you is sex. I doubt that is all you have to offer. You assume all men are bad... .then why wait till marriage, if by using your logic, all men want the same thing then you will never find one for you.
19, virgin, and plan to be that way not necessarily until marriage but until i fall in love. And yes, i have thrown women off of me, even a lesbian at one point who wanted to sleep with me.... i am not saying this to sound cocky or egotistical, i am saying this to show you that there are other men out there. btw, my reasons for doing such are not religious, but rather are entirely me
2007-12-25 16:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
How do you act toward the men that react that way. I know many girls who hate how guys just come on to them but they act very provocatively to begin with. Are you a tease or flirt?
I respect your high values very much, you are a rare breed. You should never change them, you deserve a man who really goes well with you. There are plenty out there, just keep your eyes open. I have the same problem as you currently. I find girls that are too flimsy and have low standards for themselves. Maybe one day I will find a girl like you.
2007-12-25 16:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by Hopeless Toreador 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To wait this long and still be a virgin is very rare. If you can stand it, I would wait until you really are truly in love. Making love feels so much better than just having sex, and you won't have any doubts about doing it with someone who truly cares about you.
2007-12-25 16:07:21 · answer #6 · answered by Yos 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong at all, hon! Don't let anyone tell you it is! Affection is not a bad thing, though, if you want a meaningful relationship. Perhaps you might put down what you mean by "affection", perhaps our meanings are different. However, I feel that you have every right to retain your virginity and no one else has a right to make you feel badly about it!
2007-12-25 16:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by greengirlmissy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is basically wise to refrain from sexual activity so that a child, if this occurs, becomes a reality. It will have two persons to support its fragile life. You can't say all men. It is an absolute and difficult to prove. Good girl or is it woman, go find a man that thinks like you!!
2007-12-25 16:03:11 · answer #8 · answered by hmmmm 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with that. I am 26 and I haven't even had a girl friend yet. I am asian as well. Maybe your just with the 90% of men who are like that. Not all men are like that because I know I have my values.
2007-12-25 15:59:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
As u may have realized
guys are MOSTLY like that
if they say they want to do it
tell them if
they r in the relationship just to do it
than they r not worth dating
there will come a guy who is willing to wait
for the girl he loves
this may be a fantasy
but this will motivate u to meet more guys
2007-12-25 16:07:30 · answer #10 · answered by luv2dusky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋