I have been marriaed for 15 years together for 17.... I just found nude pix of him in a file on cpmputer WTF?? ...eveything til today was fine but now I am so freaked...I want to get out of here...this is not our only problem but ...I think i may hate him now...yuk....
2007-12-25 15:52:56 · 11 answers · asked by Stacies Mom 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Intrestingly..Our sex life has picked up in the las tmonth or so..is that guilt?
2007-12-25 16:25:13 · update #1
And a note to 008..your little rant answer to every question I've seen you post an answer to is just plain rude, and not funny. And I'm 49 and didn't GET nmarried til I was 34 so I'm no dummy..perhaps there are some things YOU need to learn.
2007-12-26 07:53:26 · update #2
wow. did you check his email "sent" history to see where he sent those pics? To who?
Yeah, if your marriage is pretty much over, this might be the time to get out. Monogamy isn't his strong suit.
Edit: Oh, and make copies of them before you let him know you found them, you may need them if you end up in divorce court and he fights the divorce.
2007-12-25 15:57:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
You need to sit down with your Hubby & get Blunt, & ask him Whats The Matter.
Im Seperated/ Was married 3 times, & i woulnt tollerate any Internet Nudity, Internet Cheating,
Woman Can Behave More Better Than Men On The Net,
Men Thinks Of Sex to Much,
AWwwww That Freaks Me out To, Hearing About It,
Find a Tempoary Or Permant shelter soon, It Sounds like You May Need to get out, Or To a Friends a Bit, e mail me anytime,
2007-12-26 12:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 00:38:29 · answer #3 · answered by coratello 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, its a huge shock to find out that the man you married is living a secret life. It happened to me, he was a wonderful actor......I thought he adored me. I found out after 15 years (like you) that the man I married was nothing more than a sexual deviate. It's so hard, I still loved him, but I couldnt live with a man I really didnt know. I grieved for a long time, but after about 5 years I was a very strong woman. I guess its all about risk....we are not clairvoyants and its not our fault that we trusted the man we loved. Unfortunately people are not who they seem, and its only after a few years do we realise this. It's not too late to gather up your pride and move away. There are real men out there.....men who are decent and kind. The man you married is not. Do what is right for you.
2007-12-25 16:03:25 · answer #4 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married 15 years so you have to be at least 33 and you still haven't learned anything?!?!? Here let me help:
1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins all relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want to hear the truth. I don't lie.
2007-12-26 06:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to decide which route you want to go. If you want to attempt to save the marriage, immediately confront him with what you found and demand that you seek therapy together and he seek it for himself alone. There is more going on here than you two alone can solve.
If you don't want to save the marriage then don't tell him what you found, make copies of the pictures, and start tracking what he is doing, start getting all your affairs in order and procede with aquiring a divorce lawyer.
I am so sorry to hear this news. My heart goes out and my prayers for your sake. I wish you the best of luck with whatever you chose to do.
2007-12-25 22:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him why their are pictures of him on the computer 15 years is a long time don't trow it away ask him if counseling will help i have been married for 17 together for 18 wonderful years don't give up on him if you truly love him try to spice up your sex life to show him what he will miss if you 2 divorce in case it don't work
try something different.just hang in their tell him you found the pictures and you want to know why maybe it was something special he was working on for something special for you
2007-12-25 16:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anna M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he is going to tell atory about them. Don't say anything yet.
Get the program that tracks all of the keyboard strokes on the PC. It will not be long before the truth comes out. Then you will be ready to have the talk with him.
2007-12-25 16:02:45 · answer #8 · answered by heartsarebad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest is reading the book "The Five Love Languages" by Dr. Gary Chapman. It is a book that teaches very effectively how to communicate love to your spouse in a way that he/she understands. Damage can be repaired if you set your mind to it and you want to make things work. Even the effort on one side WILL improve things atleast a little. My husband and are finally on our way to a loving marriage that satifies us both after reading this book. We started our in a miserable marriage which becam physically violent...both partners feeling loved can do wonders...give it a try!
2007-12-25 16:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by GodsGrl4Real 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you aren't happy in your marriage and feel there's no repairing it, do not stay and remain miserable.
Talk with a therapist for help and direction, too... believe me, they can help us to 'see the light'. Sometimes we stuff things and don't look at what's really going on...
take care and good luck
2007-12-25 16:00:03 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋