Does it annoy you when people tell you that your spouse is "so nice" and that you are "so lucky" when you are

Question

secretly screaming inside that they "have no idea" how they are really like?

Answer 1

Not really.

You see, I believe in the "don't know" principle.

What's that? You don't know about the "don't know" principle?

It goes like this:

"You don't know what you don't know."

Think about it.

Answer 2

Yeah, we are pretty anal creatures. We see what is going on the outside, and wouldnt have a clue what goes on behind closed doors. Many people oggled my ex husband, he was a good looking sort and outwardly, it appeared he loved me very much. I thought he did too, then 15 years down the track I realised I was married to a sexual deviate. I was not lucky at all.....I went through all kinds of hell. People only see the outside, but you are living the horror.

Answer 3

Yes

Answer 4

Tell them the truth.

If you cant be honest with friends, are they really friends? Who do you talk to? him??

As a human being you need to be understood. You need a group of people around you that you can understand deeply, and who understand you too. Things like superficial presentations.. as you well know, are utterly unfulfilling in a situation like yours.

Answer 5

I would say that if your screaming inside... its time to get out of that relationship and then it wont annoy you anymore..

Answer 6

Well yes and no... It can annoy you, but if they don't know the truth you can't blame them and then you have to say to yourself, why am I in this relationship that makes me feel this way....

Answer 7

Yes!

Answer 8

Yeah

Answer 9

yes

Answer 10

why would it annoy you
just because you have the problems
doesn't make it their fault
the are just being polite and courteous
and probably real