When your marriage is hanging on by a thread, is it time to let go and pick up the pieces?

Answer 1

Excellent example of mixing metaphors.

Answer 2

If what brought you to this thread can be REPAIRED, then by all means DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO TO MAKE THE REPAIRS... if it's irrevokable, then maybe it's time to think about the options and what a divorce might entail... Are their children involved? Kids tend to feel guilty if their parents divorce... some parents try to play the kids against the other parent... if divorce is all there is, make sure that it is as FRIENDLY as possible and that any children involved KNOW for a FACT that they are NOT to blame... it also might help if the kids realize that two SEPARATE HAPPY PARENTS is better then two BITTER parents staying together when they really shouldn't.... IF you shouldn't is up to the two of YOU...weigh ALL the pros and cons..... it is ALWAYS best if you can try to FIX the marriage... you two fell in love once and WERE in love for some time---SOMETHING brought you together---maybe you BOTH should spend some time trying to find what brought you together in the first place then spending all your time trying to break it up.... people tend to grow apart in a marriage.... separate jobs, separate friends, separate responsibilities and SEPARATE times with the kids (if ANY).......maybe instead of spending so much time apart from each other---try to find common ground where you can spend more time TOGETHER to maybe get back what you USED to have---if that fails, then maybe divorce is best--but NOT until you BOTH sit down with each OTHER and TALK and try to find out HOW things got the way they are now...maybe you can both still fix things---but you'll have to WORK at it..---it won't change all by itself...

Answer 3

It all depends why the marriage is hanging by a thread.. But if both people love each other and want to make it work, then I would say do whatever possible to save it... If it doesn't work at least you know you tried and did everything you could...

Answer 4

just depends on if u love them, or if u see a future with them. but no matter how much u think about divorce, and plan what u will do when it happens its always devastating and hurts. its always best to make an attempt to mend it before u seek ending it so u will feel u did your best so u won't have to go back later on and wonder if u tried your best or if something else could have been done. when it ends its always going to hurt even if u had problems because the person is a big part of your life and u loved them once.

Answer 5

There is always hope, and the best thing that I can suggest is reading the book "The Five Love Languages" by Dr. Gary Chapman. It is a book that teaches very effectively how to communicate love to your spouse in a way that he/she understands. Damage can be repaired if you set your mind to it and you want to make things work. Even the effort on one side WILL improve things atleast a little. My husband and are finally on our way to a loving marriage that satifies us both after reading this book. We started our in a miserable marriage which becam physically violent...both partners feeling loved can do wonders...give it a try!

Answer 6

I think you will know in your heart that it is over. Just because you still have feeling for a person does not mean you need to stay for marriage sake. If you are not happy, it is the flag you need to leave. It is not always easy, but when in your heart, you know it is not right, leave. When you leave, you are not picking up pieces, you are doing the right thing. Staying and trying to pick up pieces are not healthy.

Answer 7

if you have tried everything possible to work it out and nothing was accomplished and it doesn't get any better it is time to move on. it will be hard but know that we came into this world alone and we will leave that way also but the time in the middle should not be spend unhappy, do what makes you happy and go from there.

Answer 8

Depends on if you want it to work out or not.
After 32 years we are still together because we always wanted it to be forever. So we work at it, talk, be honest and be very aware of what the other person needs.
Life isn't easy, and things worth having are things worth working for.

Answer 9

So many factors -- kids, length of marriage, circumstances that contribute to the problems in the marriage (adultery? gambling? drugs? or just bored?). It's hard to give an opinion on such a vague issue.

Answer 10

I remember Dear Abby saying if you're in doubt about trying to save a marriage make a list of pro's and con's and whatever side is the longest will help you decide whether or not your marriage is worth trying to save.

Answer 11

if you feel there is no needle strong enough to make your threads come together then yes its time to cut the ends and let if fall where it will