I thought that everything was going to stay the same especially when your in the 20s where you go out with mates and enjoy yourself.Why is that when you reach close to your 40s that people have to change like getting married etc? When people change you have no mates to go out with and you feel confused and disoriented. It makes you feel depressed and alone. The problem is that you miss that togetherness when you have that same routine.
2007-12-25 15:06:08 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It can be sad, but that is what happens. Life changes constantly and it is better to be oriented to that than expecting it to stay the same. You will be sadly disappointed with that view.
2007-12-29 12:01:19 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because people GROW - with that becomes the natural urge to settle down, relax, and ENJOY life. What was it that you and your "mates" DID when you went out? Most people in their 20s go out in search of a mate - usually of the opposite sex - to hopefully settle down with, thus eliminating the "need" to go out with the boys like before, right?? Right.
The PROBLEM is, that YOU put more value on the friendships rather than on WHY you all were hanging out together. That's all good, but you have to understand that there are times and places for everything and everyone - yours are just different - that does not make it bad, just different. IF everything and everybody were to stay the same, THAT would get very boring and depressing after a bit too.
You just need to stop living in the past now, and start focusing on what could lie ahead for you - go find some new things and people to hang with - the past is the past - today is a new day, so get out and find some new fun!
2007-12-25 23:23:38 · answer #2 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things in life aren't supposed to stay the same. You're supposed to mature and develop into a more enriched person with the passing of time and experience. Sounds like your mates are "growing up" while you may be doing less.
If you need a group of mates to go out with, you may have to search for a crowd in your age who doesn't desire to have lifelong commitment or responsibility in their life. That sounds as though I'm putting you down... I'm not. I'm just saying that if you want things to stay that way, you'll have to find people who feel the same. Obviously your old friends decided they wanted to mature and grow into loving, committed relationships. You've just went in opposite directions.
2007-12-25 23:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by Sonya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋