What to do in a bad relationship?

Question

I know in my heart this relationship is over. He make me so unhappy, stresses me out everyday, makes me cry, takes enjoyment out of things I love. He doesn't hit me or call me names, he just has his own way of making me feel like crap. But I'm 100% dependant on him for money. I have no job training, or an education for that matter. I'm a stay at home mom to our wonderful children. If I leave him then I have no way to take care of our kids and I know he won't help more than he has to. Wich isn't even enough to pay one months rent. I also have some minor, yet difficult, health problems and no family other than him & our kids. Do I try to stick it out til our kids are at least school aged and I can get job training, or do I uproot all our lives and live in a shealter? What do I do????

Answer 1

Get out, You don't need to suffer, needlessly there is a saying the lord will provide, and believe me he will. Don't be like my mother she put up with my dad for the same reason she had four children was only 23 years old she was a true beauty but loved her children amnesty. This made her stay with my Dad until my Baby sister died. She had a rear blood type and needed a blood transfusion my dad refused to give her his blood, Because he said his blood was too precious. My baby sister died I was only four years old and now after so many years I could still think back and remember how much my poor mom had to suffer, Because of this man. Be strong and know there is a higher power, and he will help and guide you through.

Answer 2

You loved him enough at one time to marry him. Your family and your marriage deserve further consideration. Marriage counseling is the next step. You have many avenues to pursue before divorce. If he refuses to go for some reason, then you should go on your own. This is not a way to live, and you need some coping skills. At the very least, you need someone to help you work out what to do next. Be well.

Answer 3

if you leave him you will be able to get child support which will help you with rent and some bills you can go to fia office and they can help you find a affordable house give you food stamps and medical. if your health is in some bad shape then they can help you out they can also help get you a job or job trainning. you should not stay in a realationship if he makes you feel like crap. i know alot of people say you shouldn't let the state help you out like that but my girl is on medicade and it helps out and she is looking for work so she can get off of it and by them helping her find a job its a tempary thang people who are on it because there lazy are the once who don't need it. but from the sounds of it you should try because if theres no love between the two of you execpt for the kids then theres no use in waiting for them to get older its harder when kids are older i know because my parents split and i took it bad but i was alot older and set in my ways. do it now before it gets to late.

Answer 4

You poor Darling ! Stick it out until the children are old enough for you to get a job and somewhere to live. No Longer than that . Then Run like the devil and Never look back ! Good Luck ! You will make it, Have faith !

Answer 5

In a case like this stick it out...and find a way to encourage him that you should get some training and do that.And when u get the training...you run with the kids and never look back for real

Answer 6

it looks like you need a friend i have alot to say but not enough space because i went through a lot of the samething i don't know you but i feel your pain so much nothing hurts more than feeling like the one person you love don't love you back and make you feel lower than low if you like you could email me and we could exchange numbers [e-mail]

Answer 7

get some couples counseling