My mom was telling me about how she wants her new boyfriend to move in with us this weekend. I told her it was fine but first of all, her divorce doesn't go through until next October and it wouldn't be legal for any man to move in with us until it went through. Also, they've only been together for a month. So... should I tell her my true feelings? If so, what are some things I could say?
2007-12-25 14:36:56 · 15 answers · asked by Hood Smart; 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Her boyfriend also is "pumped up" about moving in.
2007-12-25 14:38:09 · update #1
I'm a young teen
She met him on the internet.
2007-12-25 14:44:07 · update #2
You should tell your mom how you feel...I dont think a man should be in your house afterf only knowing him for a month that isnt long enough to know about a person in full detail before bringing him into a house with children there a creepy pedophiles out there you have to be careful especially when the internet is involved..im just saying
2007-12-25 16:09:17 · answer #1 · answered by brooklynnbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, this story isn't adding up right. You didn't mention how long your mom and dad have been seperated or how long this divorce has been going on or how long the marriage was. Next October is still 10 months away.
Assuming the seperation was recently, it sounds like your mother may be afraid to be a single mother and has latched on to the first man she met. If so, please recommend some kind of counseling, http://www.bharatbhasha.com/women.php/7827 there are many sites you can read and you might catch your mothers behaviour patterns and be able to find a way to tell your mother she might want to slow down.
Now, this is not so pretty and I don't mean any offense by this. But if your mother is ready to let a man move into your house after only a month of dating....my guess would be that she has known him a lot longer than she is telling. Also, having a man move in would do massive amounts of damage during these next ten months of divorce proceedings. Even admitting to it is damnin. Some states do have exceptions, you would have to check with your state laws for this.
sorry for that, but it is a harsh reality. I hope my first guess is true and be sure you find support for yourself
2007-12-25 22:58:32 · answer #2 · answered by lovely_one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her how you truly feel. That is how you should always handle things. Just explain how you feel about it. You seem pretty mature for your age, so use that. Tell her your concerns, discuss them. Then you two can come to a decision between you two. Tell her you know she has all these feeling going through her, but you would wish that she would give it sometime, get to know the man better, before she moves him in, to be sure she is making the right decision, for the both of you. You and her. Listen to her also, it's not about who is right and who is wrong, it's about you both.
2007-12-25 22:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by Iam!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though her divorce is not final it is legal for her to move this man in. But you should let your mother know your true feelings on the matter. You want to try and keep a good line of communication going with her. Maybe she'll help you to see things from her perspective and vice versa. Good luck to you!
2007-12-25 22:43:31 · answer #4 · answered by leelee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your Mom, this is really soon for a boyfriend to move in. Probably not legal either, since she's not divorced yet. It could definitely affect custody issues. Make sure your Mom knows how your feel!
2007-12-25 22:45:00 · answer #5 · answered by sandy t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to my mom about it. It sounds like she is rushing to get into another relationship because she is lonely aka the rebound relationship. I would tell my mom my true feelings by saying something like mom i know you really like this guy, but i think that you might be rushing it since you have only been together for a month and you are still getting over the divorice. In the end it is her decision, but it would benefit her to hear your true feelings.
2007-12-25 22:44:26 · answer #6 · answered by bluemonarch17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should express your opinion to your mother. However, you should voice your opinion delicately, so you avoid conflict. Tell her you understand that she is excited about this, but this is so soon. Your family has experience a lot of change recently, and a stable home life for a time would do both you and her well. Ask her to wait a little while before changing the family dynamics again.
2007-12-25 22:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by Paula B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question is difficult to answer without knowing your age. If you are in early teens or younger, No Your Mum is being inconsiderate, and is placing you in moral danger.
If you are an older experienced person, you can only register your doubts, but not demand things your own way.
2007-12-25 22:42:46 · answer #8 · answered by marheather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should tell her, as her daughter, I think she will understand where you're coming from, and do the right thing. Just tell her what you've told us, you are the one that knows how to best tell her,not us. Good luck
2007-12-25 22:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by perla0776 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Maybe you should ask her if your boyfriend could move in this week also. I would think that she would set a better example for you.
2007-12-25 22:43:27 · answer #10 · answered by Jake S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋