My fiance and I have a wonderful relationship and never have arguements. We have really close and talk like best friends. The things is, whenever we talk and I say something that bothers me or makes me sad then he feels sad as well. Then, he gets really quiet. I am the kind of person that wants to talk in those moments and when I ask him 'what's wrong' he is quiet. That makes me more hurt that he doesn't speak and then he says sorry and talks and hugs me after 30 minutes.
Do you get in these situations?
I need to learn to not say anything and let him have his time and then talk about it when he is ready.
Advice or stories greatly appreciated~
SEASONS GREETINGS!
2007-12-25 14:36:37 · 9 answers · asked by HotJewels 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe at that time, he is thinking about your situation .. and about the problem which caused you to be so sad .. and he wants to fix it ... or ... he might even get a bit piffed at the sitution which made you sad. He could just be taking in your sadness .. and being sad, too.
I also think this is a guy-thing. I think a lot of guys do this ... and when they want to tell - they tell ... and when they don't - they are quiet.
He will tell you what he wants ... so honor his decision. It will be ok.
2007-12-25 14:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by Tara 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he's holding it and not talking for extended periods of time, then I'd be upset and worried. It's not abnormal to need a little bit of time to "cool off", though, if you're angry or upset. 30 minutes is certainly not unreasonable. I wouldn't worry about it.
As long as he is receptive to talking and listening to you, then a little time to cool off and think before having the talk is OK.
2007-12-25 14:55:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jess H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's probably one of those "If you can't say something nice, don't say it at all" moments for him.
When my husband doesn't respond I suspect that's because he thinks:
A) I'm being dramatic
B) He strongly disagrees
C) He is biting his tongue from some mean truth lol
If my husband doesn't respond,I'll say "Okay then!" and drop it- for a while. I'll bring it back up later when he has had time to think about it.
2007-12-25 14:42:27 · answer #3 · answered by plastic 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
ye that happens to me all the time.i always ask my bf whats wrong and he says nothing but i can tell by the way he says nothing its something.I always have him vent but he hates it so i told him im not gonna have him vent unless he wants to.Once when i asked him what was wrong he said nothing but his cousin died that week.AND HE DIDNT TELL ME!!it hurts my feelings when he doesnt open up cuz it makes me feel like im not good enough to know or that he doesnt trust me.
2007-12-26 14:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by m0o0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It relies upon on the clarification why they didnt desire u to.I too relish oral intercourse yet there have been cases(weve been 2gether 11yrs)that my better half hasnt needed oral intercourse(or intercourse).there have been fairly some motives via the years whilst a million or different individuals has long gone off oral intercourse/intercourse.U have 2 communicate approximately it & locate out why.usually the genuine reason doesnt pop out rapidly away.They/U make excuses.Then u can get in a rut,the place u provide up having oral or intercourse & a million or the two considered one of u gets a psychological block approximately it.Eventualy issues usualy kind themselves out.many cases weve almost split up via the years over this concern or comparable.My better half continuously advised me he enjoyed me & stil fancied me yet i 4t that if he did he could decide to hav oral/intercourse with me or desire me to giv him oral intercourse.as quickly as we talked acceptable & have been given the genuine motives out we worked on it & appeared after it out.U hav 2 communicate.as quickly as u be attentive to y they dont desire/like oral intercourse u can artwork on getting getting them to love/desire it agen. Did ur better half used to relish oral intercourse or has he continuously no longer needed it or is it a theoretical question? As i say there r many motives & it did disappointed me & difficulty me & i cared very plenty.A actual courting isnt the main needed component in a courting although if it usualy performs an particularly huge area. As to why.If u desire a actual/oral intercourse courting & they dont u can sense like they dont love/fancy/care 4 u the way they could desire to.This isnt continuously the case.If u love & are in love with somebody u'l persist with them & locate out whats at the back of it & artwork out a answer that ur the two happy with.it quite is one concern,courting sensible, which could make or injury it & u locate out if u realy do love them or no longer. desire this facilitates although if i grow to be somewhat long-winded.
2016-10-09 04:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by paczkowski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most guys are like that. Especially when they are younger. Those situations are SO common and you sound like you are handling it ok.
2007-12-25 14:41:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think my girlfriend is the same way...
she always opens up to me..and i dont..she gets really upset when i dont..and that is how your feeling
guys tend to keep everything inside...and alot of girls dont realize that...well at least i think...
hes just thinking about what you told him...or how he feels about it...
try and give him time to open up...
2007-12-25 14:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Silence to the question "What's wrong" when there is obviously something wrong, makes me....uhhhh.....angry. I can't hep it.
2007-12-25 14:42:20 · answer #8 · answered by jeff b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it all.
Let him come to you. It will mean more that way to you.
Merry Christmas.... stop nagging your man!
2007-12-25 14:39:52 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋