Plz I have a friend and i think that she was raped but ever time that i try to get her to talk about it she?

Question

gets mad at m. I think that he did it b4 I knew her only thing that i know is that theyhad sex butits some thing more to it and they have been friends for a long time but ever time that i see him i want to kick his a#$ i dont even talk to him want to know what went on that is all i think that it is to late to call the cops now but how can i get her to talk about it and how can i get her to get help

Answer 1

She needs to see a therapist. I think that would be the best for her at this point. Urge her to go see someone.

Answer 2

You have to realize that when a rape victim talks, thinks, or is reminded of the incident, they relive that day all over again. Its painful, shameful, and it hurts anyone who go through something as traumatic as rape. That's why most rape victims never even come forward and tell anyone about what happened because they fear ridicule, not being believed, or being out-casted by the rest of their peers.

The only thing you can do as a friend is tell her that no matter what happened, even if she doesn't want to talk about it, you are there for her. You can give her numbers to sexual assault hot lines where professionals can talk with her either in person or over the phone and get her the help she needs.

I know you want so desperately to help her, but you can't help her unless she wants to help herself. The only thing you can do is point her in the right direction, and be there for her every step of the way. Go on line and look up some of the local 1-800 numbers in your area and leave a print out where she can see it. But don't be too pushy or up front about it, because she'll build that wall between the two of you even thicker when you try to force your way in. I know you want her to seek help, but its really all on her is she wants it. Pray that she sees what it is you're trying to do, and reassure her that you're her emotional, physical, and spiritual support. God bless you.

Answer 3

She is resisting your help so back off. The sad reality is that she probably knew from when it happened that she couldn't go to the police, as they had been friends. Her way of coping is to try and shut it out. This will not work in the long term, but she will have to face it at some point, or else she'll start doing stuff to continue blocking it out (drug and alcohol use for eg).

But... you can't push her. I would suggest that you only address it one more time, to tell her that you know that she doesn't want to talk about it, but that you are there for her. Then she knows that you are always there. Do not try to find out what happened - that could be interpreted as tasteless.

Answer 4

As a Psychologist, I guess your friend needs a lot of counseling for her to be able to cope up with what happened. As a friend, you should be liable in helping her out to solve her problem, but if a mere fact states that she is refusing your help, then I think you should let her decide on herself on what is she going to do next, somewhat let her solve her own problem. Just guide her in every decision/s that she will make. okay? i hope it helps...

Answer 5

Well, I would say that you should tell her that you want to speak to her "woman to woman". Tell her that you are her friend and that you are there for her. It always helps to talk about your problems with other people, because you let all of your feelings out.

Talk to your school counselor (if any). Tell them the situation, and maybe all 3 of you can sit down and talk about it.

Answer 6

I think she needs help. My wife was raped when she was 15 and her mother told her "things happen, get over it." She has never gotten over it and she gets crazier every day. I think if she had counseling when it happened, she would be better adjusted.