What do u think of having a baby before marriage?

Answer 1

Its just a peice of paper. I have a 4 month old daughter and i have been with my fiancee for 4 years. I think its okay it all depends on your family.

Answer 2

I had a baby before I was married to her father, but we got married 3 months later. We had planned on being married in the future having a baby sped up the process. I am glad we did because marriage gives us more security than a "committed relationship". There is more incentive to work problems out once you actually sign papers, commit and make vows. Getting married isn't expensive either, and it's well worth it in the long run as long you love the person you are with and are willing to take that step. Which if you are having children it's a good thing to actually want to be with the mother/father of your child.

Answer 3

As a pediatrician I have had a lot of experience with this issue, and generally, I think it is a bad idea. Many single moms are young and inexperienced. Young fathers might be supportive initially, but many walk away after a while. The mother, and often her family, are left with the burden of raising the child. Sure, many of these children are raised in loving environments, but mother and child continue to face difficulties. Children benefit from an emotionally mature, loving, two-parent environment.

Given today's high divorce rate, it's easy to understand why some people think little of marriage. Love aside, there are significant economic issues such as health insurance coverage, education expenses, wills, estate and probate issues. I'm no attorney, but what happens if an unwed father intestate dies and his parents or sibs claim his estate? Issues like this keep lawyers busy.

Recently, much attention has been given to entertainment celebrities being single parents. Please don't lose sight of the fact that these women have access to financial resources that most others do not.

Answer 4

I think its best for a child to be born to a married couple or a couple that is in a committed long-term relationship that has no intention of splitting up (usually 5 years together or longer.) If a child is born to an unmarried couple or a single parent, than I don't look down on them. Everyone can love their child. I think a child just has a more balanced environment when growing up in a committed two-parent home.

I hate when I see a boyfriend/girlfriend couple decide to start for a child before they plan marriage. You should be willing tio make a lifelong commitment of marriage (which can be reversed) before making the lifelong commitment of sharing a child (which cannot be reversed.) I think a couple who is married is more likely to try to work through problems than a couple who is unwed. A baby benefits from having two loving parents more so than from one.

Answer 5

i had a baby before marriage and we planned it that way we then got married a year and half later after the baby was born

Answer 6

Having a baby before marriage isn't
a good idea. A single parent will find
raising the child takes more free time
then he/she has. The marriage you thought
was going to happen often doesn't.
Ask any single parent & they will tell you
waiting until after marriage is better.

Answer 7

I don't think it matters. I'm not going to be pressured into doing something again that ended so badly the first time around. My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years and even though we talk about getting married we aren't in a rush. My kids are loved whether I'm married or not.

Answer 8

Sensible, in some ways. For a lot of people, if they had the wedding, they couldn't afford the baby! My partner doesn't believe in marriage so if I was to wait until we got married, we'd never have had a baby.

Answer 9

first of all its not allowed in my religion...

i feel a man & a woman shld get married before planning for a baby.Mostly those young kids have babies b4 marriage is like being force to get married bcoz of the baby.Its not healthy for the relathnshp...mostly ends up in divorce...

Answer 10

i think maybe the two people have
to get to know each other more,
and not mary afterwards just because they had a baby.
its like not thinking of the future, there is a long way to go
are you that in a rush? riight =]
to a lot of people, its not that good or approapriate, but
you should ask yourself, do you like the person well enough and can you trust the person? (;

Answer 11

I don't think marriage means much. If a married couple doesn't give their child the love and attention (s)he deserves...and an unmarried couple gives their child everything (s)he could possibly need...would you prefer the neglectful married couple, or the loving unmarried one?

I'd take the couple who cares for their child any day. Besides, you don't have to be married to love someone and/or spend your life with them...nor do you need to love someone to marry them.