trying to save a marraige? If it honestly feels like the other person has some serious issues. Either from childhood or mental issues. He is absolutely the worst at holding grudges and bringing up the past. Granted I'm not perfect myself. I've made my fair share of mistakes. How do you try to save a marraige when you're dealing with a mentally sick person that refuses medication, will only goto couseling if its couples. However we can't do to pervious history or domestic abuse. We've been together for 9 years married for 6. Been having these issues for over 6 years.
2007-12-25 13:48:11 · 8 answers · asked by kdlamb24 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had a mentally ill spouse with serious issues. The only thing that kept me in the relationship for 6 years after it was diagonosed is the fact that she was willing to take medications and go to psycotheropy.
What your husband is doing is just putting a band aid on a severed artery. If he is not willing to go all the way with medication and psycotheropy to include individual and group councelling it's definately time to bail out.
2007-12-25 14:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by oneiloilojeepney 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how serious it is and that you are planning on leaving if he doesn't get help. If he refuses then walk out the door. You can still love someone from a distance, but you can't spend your whole life trying to fix other people, or you will end up broken. Life is short honey, do something that makes you happy . I'm not one to say walk out on your marriage, but at the same time it sounds like you have tried your best and if you continue with this relationship it will wear you down until you have nothing left to offer anyone else. Trust me when your older you will resent him for eating up precious moments of your life that you can't get back. Good Luck Sweetie!
2007-12-25 15:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by begood1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Issues of domestic abuse?
Possibly I am jaded by what I have seen in the line of duty, but I think you should leave before he kills you!
That is just my opinion, so it may not be true in this case, but here are some facts that are true...
You deserve better!
And you are not going to get better unless you make it happen. You are in control of your life and the only person responsible for your happiness.
Nobody can tell you when enough is enough...but if you listen to your heart and conscious, and make a better life for yourself, nobody but you will be to blame.
Take control of your life! You are beautiful and you belong in a loving relationship!
Good luck.
2007-12-25 14:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
way past time to take a stand. Tell him you've had enough and should not have to deal with this anymore, and so either he gets help or you're leaving (and mean it). One thing to remember is that people chose partners that are of their own levels of emotional maturity, issues, etc. and/or those who will help you settle some issues from childhood, etc. Either way, you too need to be checked out.
2007-12-25 14:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by lmspencr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either go together or you go alone for some marriage counseling before you call it a day.
6 years is too long to be in a marriage with serious issues.
2007-12-25 13:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels you both need the counceling. It takes two to fight. Since you want to save your marriage, there is two of you in it. You both need to go.
2007-12-25 19:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to counseling together. there is always work both parties can do. if your counselor sees that he needs a little more work let him/her recommend it to your spouse and he may be more receptive if it comes from a professional
2007-12-25 13:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by Q-mama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to figure this out. there will be a point when you say enough.
2007-12-25 14:03:41 · answer #8 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋