well ive got this friend, who ive recently gotten into a fight with. and they really really want to become friends again. and i dont know what to do because i have this reall bad gut feelings that i shouldnt, so your opinions, follow my gut feeling, or ignor it?
2007-12-25 13:31:23 · 8 answers · asked by jess:) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think my gut feeling means something. Whenever I have ignored it, I find out I should have followed it. So, you are picking up something and think you should listen to it.
2007-12-25 13:39:41 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your intuition, it will save you a lot of heartache and stress.
I tried to give an ex-friend the benefit of the doubt. In fact I never vocalized the issues I had with her. I just tried to let her make amends on her own and become a better friend through improved actions, but it never happened. She is just a self-centered individual with jealousy issues. Some people will make the arguement that I should have talked to her, but this person was very manipulative. She would have twisted any arguement to make herself not seem so bad.
Turns out not too long before I ended my friendship with her, she complained that a lot of her friends didn't want to hang out with her. She was hosting a dinner party this past October and only 3 people committed to attending. She was trying to get me to agree to come, but at that point I was too through with her. Plus I feel uncomfortable eating the food of someone I don't care for.
I barely knew most of her other friends, but I can only speculate based upon my own experiences with her, that she displayed the same selfish, hypocritical nonsense that nobody should tolerate. lt wasn't a coincendence that everyone in her life was distancing themselves from her. They had enough.
I would advise you to think over everything this friend has done, both good and bad. Weigh the pros and cons this friend brings to your life, and then think about the gut feelings you have. If your feelings are still telling you to end the friendship.....end it.
2007-12-25 23:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by Jan4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it depends on the person. If the person you got into a fight with is truly sorry, and willing to listen, then I think you should become friends again. But if you have a gut feeling not to be friends with her again, then maybe you should wait a little bit to see if the person really has changed. If she hasnt then you'll have to decide what's best for your friendship. Good luck, & Happy Holidays.
2007-12-26 10:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your gut feeling
2007-12-25 21:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by zoey1176 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gut feelings are very important, intuition is key. your not - friend might be up to something fishayy. check out our not-friend and see what they are up to but second chances are golden especially if your gonna need one with your not-friend its always good to have a few owed to you
2007-12-25 21:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your gut
2007-12-25 21:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by WaterPrincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be friends, don't. We can't decide who can be your friens. That is all up to you. Good Luck and God Bless!
2007-12-25 21:48:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm you can choose your friends. I only have few friends who I can really trust
2007-12-25 21:34:59 · answer #8 · answered by Pink Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋