i was adopted 21 years ago by a wonderful family...as a child my cousin and i grew up together. we both knew that what we wanted we couldnt have because the fact that our family would never understand. we hid our relationship from our family for years now. two years ago she and i had a child together. my question is that is it wrong for me to have a child with my adopetd cousin? again i was adopted and my cousin and i are not blood cousin....
2007-12-25 13:30:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1. I bet they know already.
2. in some states there are laws against first cousins from marrying, but many have dropped them. you are not held to this being adopted
3. God work very hard to bring you two together.
I think it's time to step forward, face your families, and accept the responsibility of your own family.
2007-12-25 13:50:05 · answer #1 · answered by cmrwash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already had child together and if you are not blood related than there is no danger to your future children. Talk to your family and tell them how you feel. One thing I have learned throughout the years, is you should always tell the truth no matter what happens. It will be hard and akward at first but give it time. If your family loves you and I am sure they do, they will get used to you two being together. Pray about the situation and let the Lord help guide you. He will give you peace if it is the right thing and his will for your life.
2007-12-25 21:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by jodi31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love always comes first ...(the three of you are now a family unit within it's own self)....... the parental unit politics now take second place.
No bloodline, no problem.
If someone is offended or going to be hurt, of course that is unfortunate. There are always going to be sacrifices somewhere in the path of true love.
Do not sacrifice your new family but be understanding of others feelings where you can. Eventually the toddler may well be a catalyst in bringing you back together with the parental family unit.
2007-12-25 22:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by John B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. Thats a tough one. She isn't blood, but she is family. I think that maybe you should come out if you already havent.
no i dont think its wrong to have a child with your adopted cousin, I wouldnt do it because of what my family might say, but yours may be a little more open with the idea of loving your cousin....
good luck :)
2007-12-25 21:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the family knows there is no blood relation and you get along great then it should be ok. Just don't get mad if in the future you get picked on with redneck jokes or what ever they use there.
Nothin' says lovin' like marrin' your cousin. lol
If two cousins from labama get married and move to georgia then get divorced. Does that mean they are not cousins anymore?
2007-12-25 21:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had a child two years ago, it's a little late to be asking if the relationship is okay.
Forget the circumstances of whether or not you are "related".
Take care of your child and his mother!
2007-12-25 22:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by Tauri Athena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be open with your families and tell them the truth.
Living in the closet is always wrong....and this is something that you can't hide forever.
Do it for the child.
2007-12-25 21:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you're not really kin to each other so it's Ok, but how have you hid this from you're family???? It's not wrong so get your family involved. Be happy.
2007-12-25 21:35:44 · answer #8 · answered by sandy t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT'S KIND OF A MOOT POINT NOW..........YA'LL HAVE A CHILD TOGETHER.........LEGALLY THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH IT........MORALLY.............WELL, IT'S REALLY BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU AND YOUR FAMILY WILL EITHER BE UNDERSTANDING OR NOT.......BUT I BELIEVE THAT EVEN THOUGH WE DON'T ALWAYS AGREE OR LIKE THE CHOICES OUR CHILDREN MAKE........WE ALWAYS LOVE THEM AND LEARN TO ACCEPT THEM WHERE THEY ARE
2007-12-25 21:38:25 · answer #9 · answered by CAT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a deep one.. even though there is no blood ties.. there still is family ties! Both of you are responsible for your actions...and no one else can tell you any different.
2007-12-25 21:33:37 · answer #10 · answered by shelly v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋