My husband can not last longer than 1- 10 seconds (I am not in anyway over exggeragting) As soon as he's in, he's done. Our counselor has suggested he say a doctor cause he might have depression. Zoloft can help with depression and (PE) Premature ejaculation. I don't really care if I have an orgasm everytime, but it's been months since I've had an orgasm. . He refuses to see a doctor. I hate doing this but I'm not having sex w/ him anymore, I'm tired of having sex without any orgasms, it's been months since I even enjoyed have sex. He might think I'm being mean, but I'm so tired of getting excited to only get let down. This problem is causeing a huge problem. He gets mad when I masturbate, but it's the only way I can achieve any pleasure. How can I convince him to get help? I think he's being selfish by not at least trying to get on zoloft. Any advice or anything is GREATLY apprecaited.
2007-12-25 13:26:23 · 20 answers · asked by msulli2366 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When I was frist married my husband and I had the same problem. We had to talk about it with each other. We talked about what pleased me sexually. It really helped him bring me to orgasim first. Eventually, we brought in sex toys to help things out, that way, if he got off and I didn't he could use the toy on me. Often he found it very stimulating since, he could se what I found pleasurable. Also, they make a cream called Time in a Bottle. The company Pure Romance sells it. It is a desentising cream. It helps prolong his erection. Beware, too much of it can cause lose of erection. I found that putting the cream on his testicles worked best. If you feel the need to masturbate, have him watch you. Make him apart of it. Make sure you include him in so he can understand that you too have needs. Also, encourage him to masterabate. It will help him learn to control the PME. Most importantly talk to each other. If you dont, the problem will just get worse. Good Luck.
2007-12-25 13:52:56 · answer #1 · answered by lumpy_6 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-20 06:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are correct to request your man to do something about it. However, you must understand that it is a sensitive issue for him also, and talking to another person about this problem can be highly embarassing.
There are numerous different reasons for premature ejaculation to evolve...........whether it be stress, diabetes or one of the many other causes.
I have been suffering from premature ejaculation for years, but recently I found a treatment that has resparked our sex life. The treatment is a new product on the market, and it is extremely effective, without all the chemicals that the other products I have tried contain.
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2007-12-29 08:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound silly at all. You have every right to feel how you feel and if I were in your position my hubby wouldn't be getting any at all untill he learns to stop being a selfish lover. #1 just because he doesn't have an erection does mean the sex is over. I'm so sick of that attitude from some men (usually younger immature ones though). Just because he doesn't have an erection doesn't mean he still doesn't have ten fingers and a tounge. (Am I right?) He can still bring you to orgasm and please you even if he's not hard. He needs to stop thinking his penis is the center of the universe. #2 If he's having premature ejaculation problems he owes it to not only him but you to go get hel from his doctor. He needs to make an appointment and look at treatment options. Premature ejaculation is a serious problem and it eventually turns into a big issue in a marriage. If it's not handled it can turn into resentment which is no good. Your husband is probably VERY frustrated with this issue but you are right, that does not give him a free pass to please himself then move on. You should talk to him about how this makes you feel. He needs to know how his actions are affecting you. Tell him that you don't appreciate that he ejaculates then leaves. He still can please you. You also need to tell him to make a doctors appointment and try to get the issue fixed for the both of you. If it was me I'd tell my partner no more sex untill you go to the doctor. -Connor
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2016-03-31 05:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by Valentine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use the Vydox product referred to by that Edward LeBlanc doctor guy on here, and it works like a Charm. For some time I was unable to achieve a decent hard-on.. and if I did, it was ever rarely fully erect. On top of that, I would always ejaculate after only a few minutes of stimulation. It was embarrassing as fvck. One day I remember seeing a commercial on TV talking about Vydox, which sparked my interest. They only charge S&H for the first Month's supply to test it out. So I did. I haven't had much of any problem since. I hear doing these things called "Kegal" exercises can also help a great deal.
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2016-02-10 06:46:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, keeping your 'legs closed' is not the way to fix anything
Second, he might not want to see a doctor, because it may be too fricken embarrassing! Guys don't necessarily enjoy talking to other people about problems that they're having with their 'wanker'.
As for the PME, there are lots of things that can be done little by little, that all help out just a little in their own way - and in the end it equates to a lot.
For starters, you guys are married, which means that you're gonna be having sex together for quite some time. You need to learn to be really open with each other. Read books on how to pleasure a man, while being in bed right next to him reading a book on how to pleasure a woman. No matter how much you think you know, there's a LOT more out there to learn. Also, talk to each other and learn what different things please you guys the most. Being open with him and telling him things about yourself will encourage him to SLOWLY begin to open up. Don't expect him to open up overnight.
There are also exercises that can be done to strengthen the muscles in the penis. If these exercises are done regularly for just a couple weeks, then they'll get strong enough to make a difference.
Lastly, encourage masturbation in a POSITIVE way. Don't say something like
'You aint gettin' none of this - you better go whack your wanker'
Instead, maybe you guys could talk about what you like sexually, and encourage him to 'please himself' while thinking about and anticipating a night of joy with you.
2007-12-26 01:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by Mister 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-13 17:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-01-31 21:07:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋