Everytime me, my husband, and mother-in-law are driving in the car either her or my husband brings up his ex-girlfried. I just get very quiet and don't say anything. Why do you think this always happens?
2007-12-25 13:22:47 · 11 answers · asked by Katie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
next time it happens, ask your husband if they broke up due to his overbearing mom or his under-sized penis, that should cut the conversation short...
2007-12-25 14:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just Wagging here, but it seems two people are doing the same thing. You didn't say how you think your mother-in-law treats you or if she's pleased with you. Sometimes a mother has trouble letting go of her baby boy. This is something you may not be able to resolve.
The other thing happening here is with your husband- he's got to know how you feel about discussing a former girlfriend. Yet he continues to please his mother by bringing up the old girlfriend. This is something *he* should deal with.
Might be, he's not able to grow up enough. An ueberkontrollant mother is tough to lose.
If things are tolerable between you and the ex girlfriend, you might try being better friends. Might be, she had a similar thing happening, and this could be one reason she is an *ex* girlfriend.
If the ex g/f is OK with it, you could always join in the conversation with lots of left-handed compliments- "Her skin has cleared up a lot." Or "Her parole officer says she has a good chance of getting the charges dropped." But this is more a humorous, offensive tack that may not be right for you.
I'm also not sure how you'd feel about the direct approach- "Hubby and mom-in-law, it bothers me when you talk about her. Would you please stop?"
At any rate, I don't think you have an easy row to hoe. Good luck and have a great New Year's!!
2007-12-25 22:04:19 · answer #2 · answered by going_for_baroque 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a witch. Next time you're in the car with them, mention something amazing that your ex boyfriend did. :)
2007-12-25 21:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, "Oh puleeze, like I really need to hear all about your ex, hon. Drop it."
I mean seriously, they are being rude- be rude right back!
2007-12-25 21:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by plastic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start relating and talk about one of your ex-boyfriends... many mother-in-laws are player haters.. and love to start stuff... even the playing field... get down and dirty!! lol
2007-12-25 21:39:01 · answer #5 · answered by shelly v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they try to make you jealous, you need to talk to your husband and tell him that is disrespectful to you and you don;t like it.
2007-12-25 21:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by zoey1176 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not quite enough info. here, as it could be that they wish to drive home the point that you're a better pick, so to speak....please clarify.
2007-12-25 21:31:41 · answer #7 · answered by lmspencr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start talking about your last boyfriend or high school sweattheart -and how great his parents treated you!
2007-12-25 23:17:41 · answer #8 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
piss him ooff like he is doing to you and chat about your old boyfriends,, they both have problems,,
i would tell hiim seriously how u feel and tell him to control his momma and tell her that is wrong
2007-12-25 21:53:07 · answer #9 · answered by thanks to our brave troops, 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they do it to piss you off..talk to him about it and see. Or maybe they miss the ex.
2007-12-25 21:25:49 · answer #10 · answered by ღThE OnE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋