hi all,
my ex and i broke up because he was always working and he never had time for me. we broke up about 2 years ago. after we broke up he would always keep in touch till this day. he calls me like every 3-4 weeks to see how i am doing? also, when he calls he wants to hang out and everytime i hang out with him we end up kissing (no sex) just kissing,,,so its not a booty call...im trying to figure him out..what does he want from?? does this make any sense at all?? cause im so confused as to why he hooks up with me when we hang out but we r not together...ive been dating other guys after him and i know that hes been dating other girls after me...i need help trying to figure this out??? im gonna ask him whats on his mind, but before i do this i just want everyones opinion...im curious
2007-12-25 13:17:10 · 12 answers · asked by Georgia F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why are you trying to figure him out? Do you want to get back together with him or just want to know what the deal is with the two of you hanging out? He could be contacting you for a number of reasons. My best guess is that he just wants to know that he can still get your attention, nothing more, nothing less. If he wanted a relationship with you, he would make it clear. And while you haven't had sex, he just sounds like a tease. Why give up anything (even kissing) to someone so easily, especially when you don't know where you stand? What's the point?
If you really want to know, just ask him. Don't spend a lot of time over thinking this.
2007-12-25 13:26:07 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding?
2 years of playing nurse maid with him is enough. You need to keep what little self esteem you have left and get out QUICK
I have a friend who has been doing this same scenario with her ex-husband - it has been 15 years like that.
Respect yourself and send him on down the road. Cause believe me - when he finds someone to take your place and he has no time for you; he won't be back.
As far as keeping you around for his every 3-4 weeks get together -- girlfriend -- please -- this guys not worth your time.
2007-12-25 21:34:47 · answer #2 · answered by PJ Solutions 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he calls every 3-4 weeks, my opinion is that he is just passing time with you when he has nothing else to do. Just like you are doing with him, in between dates. I don't know why you find this so confusing when you are doing the same to him.
2007-12-25 21:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by trixxi_fan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your a backup girl. Someone to play with when he's bored. Kinda like a toy. And when he finds another girl he's interested in, you wont hear from him. Untill she's unavailable for him or he's bored again. If I were you I'd stop seeing him and find something more valuable to do with me time.
2007-12-26 01:30:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he has a connection with you. He will find someone else in time. If you do not mind then it is ok. But then again you are letting this happen.
2007-12-25 21:33:02 · answer #5 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you somehow are a security blanket... Don't let this worry you maybe someday he'll find a new one, but for now he keeps you close cause you are safe...
2007-12-25 21:20:41 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him what's going on or just have fun and don't get your feelings to involved in it.
2007-12-25 21:27:22 · answer #7 · answered by special 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either he wants a commitment or he doesnt
the choice is his to make , and for you to call time out.
2007-12-25 21:21:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
next time you guys go out.. keep your lips to yourself.. he keeps dragging you into a cycle of wanting to know you will always be there.. he doesn't want you but, he doesn't want to let you go either!! let it go.
2007-12-25 21:41:06 · answer #9 · answered by shelly v 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We men don't make sense sometimes, it's just our human nature ! :)
Have Fun !
2007-12-25 21:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋