My mom got divorced form my dad 2 months ago. Now she has a new boyfriend. I'm afraid he's going to be my new stepfather with stepchildren, if you know what I mean. I try to tell her, but end up getting yelled at or told I should be happy for her. They seem to go out almost every other night!!!!!!!
I love her, but don't want to have stepsiblings!! OR A STEP FATHER!
How can make it clear.
BTW, she's 41 and he's 36 or something. :(
HELP!
2007-12-25 12:50:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Hi hon....
from an adult perspective (and i am an adult of 50) it's a little soon for your mother to be considering marriage... she was just divorced.
and i see that you are stressed out over this... i can't blame you.. you have barely had time to realize your parents are divorced yet!
if you are having problems with this, consider your school counselor or an adult you respect and trust for advice and direction.
We can't tell our parents what to do, that's for sure.... but i think that it might be a good idea for you to try to come to terms with this... sometimes we have to accept situations at face value.
I sure hope things work out...
2007-12-25 12:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your age which would make a big difference here. YOU can kill people with kindness. What I want for you to do, is be ever so "polite" which doesn't mean that you have to be friendly. Then I want for you to stay in prayer and continue in this manner, each and every day.
I want to share some scriptures with you. What shall we then say to these things? If GOD be for us, WHO can be against us? - Romans 8:31. The Lord daily loadeth us with BENEFITS, even the God of our salvation. Selah. - Psalm 68:19. BEFORE you enter a room or building, say quietly, "Peace Be To This House." - This will cause those who are within those premises to behave favorably. - Luke 10:5. The world is the Lord's house.
I believe that you are seriously concerned about this. YOU must pull out the BIG GUNS. This requires a little extra work on your part. Read Psalm 35 to (Plead My Cause) - This you must do on a daily basis. The Lord will see that you are sincere and will guide your life accordingly. I wish you well.
May you and your loved ones experience a prosperous, healthy, God-endowed and Happy New Year.
2007-12-26 20:28:52 · answer #2 · answered by In God We Trust 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol.... sorry but this is exactly like my situation. My mom and dad devoriced, then a year later i had a new baby half sister, and a step dad who was 36 and my mom was 40.
It does stink and I understand your concern. Your mom should listen to what you have to say without getting mad. Sure you may not be happy, but you can't force her to brake up with her boyfriend. You may eventually have a step parent and siblings, even with your dad. You may not like it but it's something you have to adapt to. Your maybe step sibs might feel the same way towards you and your mom. Just try to be happy.
2007-12-25 21:06:31 · answer #3 · answered by Aubs 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a child of newly divorced parents, and I know it completely sucks.
But you're being a bit selfish.
Imagine if you were your mom and you had just gotten a divorce. Wouldn't you be lonely?
Besides, I doubt she and her boyfriend are thinking about marriage/kids.
Slow down!
2007-12-25 20:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by charlotte 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confide in a friend they have the best ideas about these things
Im 13 & went through the same thing. but know ive adjusted & everythings fine. Trust me, it'll be ok :}
2007-12-25 20:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what its like honey
write her a note
and pray she listens
don't tell her that you think she is neglecting you or anything... say 'i FEEL like i might be ignored' or whatever. its all about FEELINGS.
not to sound all girly and sterotypical, but its true.
tell her you think she is going too fast and the emotional stress is really hurting you.
i hope i help!
2007-12-25 21:28:26 · answer #6 · answered by Kenna Coconut™ Actorasauress Rex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he makes ur mom happy then u should be happy for her. i think the problem is u dont want to come second, so u r a tad bit selfish.
2007-12-25 22:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and live with your grandmother or go and live with your dad. In a few weeks she is going to realize about your feelings!
2007-12-25 22:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't your decision. I'm sorry, but you're going to have to just let her do what she wants. Try to talk to her about your feelings in a non-confrontational way.
2007-12-25 21:01:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i dont think mummy's should have boyfriends
2007-12-25 22:44:03 · answer #10 · answered by Todd 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋