This is a second marriage. We are both 51. I am shocked and heartbroken. Guys and girls of all ages do you agree with me?
2007-12-25 12:40:01 · 17 answers · asked by christy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Does he work? How come it is on your credit card? Did you ask him? I think you two need to sit down and have a heart to heart talk. Are you both on the same page?
2007-12-25 13:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got a GPS too and I love it; but that's not your question.
If my boyfriend had bought it with my credit, I wouldn't be too happy. Friends that I know who are married actually keep separate Christmas funds so that they don't end up paying for their own gifts over the next year by charging to shared credit cards.
Maybe he plans to pay off the charge quickly; he just didn't have the money in time for Christmas.
2007-12-25 12:43:47 · answer #2 · answered by LifesAMystery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he love you in other ways even if gift-giving isn't his strong point? It sounds like you are seeking outside opinions to justify being unhappy with this guy. This is at worst a silly story to tell later on. Don't let this be a deal-breaker in your marriage that is just getting started. If you can't laugh now, how will you deal with something really bad?
2007-12-25 13:03:47 · answer #3 · answered by UpanishadMorning 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her credit card, his credit card - your married isnt the money that will pay the bill BOTH of yours?
Since when are the holidays about material things? Get over it and learn to look at the good things you both have going for you.
2007-12-25 13:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not married, but my parents would, and still buy each other's Christmas presents with BOTH of their money. They never distinguish between his and hers, because they view that as selfish. They've been married for a long time, so I suppose that they know a thing or two about finances. I wouldn't be hurt, but if you don't like it, then return it.
2007-12-25 12:47:51 · answer #5 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not romantic at all, but who initiated the purchase if your credit card was used????What is your financial situation? And do you know what his previous situation was with his ex wife? Perhaps they were very practical, everyone is different. Find out before you jump to conclusions.
2007-12-25 13:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by sandy t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you get married again!??!? Didn't you learn your lesson the first time?!?! Marriage destroys all relationships even soul mates. You are 51 GROW UP!!! What did you want him to buy you!??!?! A useless diamond necklace you can't do anything with?!?!?!
2007-12-25 12:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, might he be in financial difficulties after the wedding (the wedding etc. would be more important as a memory, right?)? Or he could be starting low so as to improve each year.....just trying to look at the glass as half full....
2007-12-25 13:00:40 · answer #8 · answered by lmspencr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him- some men by the time they reach a certain age are set in their ways, for what ever reasons- their past. maybe he honestly didn't think about what he was not doing- understand. otherwise this is not a good start to your marriage
2007-12-25 12:45:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He used YOUR credit card to buy you a Christmas gift?? That's as low brow as it gets. Wow that is really backwater trailer trash.
2007-12-25 12:52:01 · answer #10 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋